Community Chat

[shoptilyadropagain]

I think no service and no obits are becoming more common all the time.  A friend from these boards passed away a couple of months ago and another friend from here and I could never locate an obituary online (even looking at various funeral homes in her area).  I also think cost is becoming a factor.  Like everything else, those costs are going up.  When my dad passed about 6 years ago, our funeral director told us that having it in the newspaper is very costly (forget the amount) so we opted to just publish it in our local paper.  

[Elodie2]

There's a steady stream of obituaries in our local paper, particularly on Sunday.  What I've found is that obituaries now read like biographies.  I generally skim through them.  I notably recall a man who wrote his own and was quite intentionally humorous.

[Sooner]

I think it depends on what anyone left wants to do, and is different for every peson and situation.  

[JamandBread]

Obituaries are very costly. I've just been through this with a family member. To have any detail in the obit was going to cost over a thousand dollars just for the local paper.
We decided to publish the name, with a link to the obituary which was hosted by the funeral home's website. All the details, family members names, etc could be found through the link.

[Jk9]

I am seeing it more in my area (upper SC).  Have several relatives who didn't want an obit or services and know several other people who felt the same.   

[Mindy D]

It's very common.

[Zhills]

When my Dad dies, the funeral director told us that the funeral home put "death notices" in the paper and family usually put (and paid for) the obituary! 

Guess times have changed!

[ID2]

My dh and I were just disscussing this. My wishes have always been that I don't want a wake or anything. Creamate me and scatter my ashes in our lake. My kids are to go out and have a great dinner in my memory. That's it. 

[Kardi]

When my dad died years ago, my mother had a conventional funeral.  My dad always said "save the money, cremate me."  She couldn't imagine anything but a wake and burial.   When my mom passed a few years back we arranged a very conventional funeral.  It cost about $10,000.00.  My siblings and I all said at that point that we wanted nothing when we go.  I think it's becoming common to have no hoopla.  

[hckynutjohn]

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@Zhills wrote:

they had no service and not even an obituary on the internet. 

Is this common today?  

I understand "no service" but no obituary???

@Zhills 

From my experiences over the years, I have found it not to be uncommon. Why?  I figure it was not my business and did not ask.

hckynut  🇺🇸

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