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[Growing]

Yes, it is common. An obituary runs a lot of money now days. Usually the obit is online with whatever company is preparing the body. Some people don't want a service. My spouse is telling me not to invite their siblings. Don't make me do your dirty work, I know you hate them for good reason but I can't do -- so maybe it will be no service for him either. 

[Mimi NY]

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

Obituaries and such just are not safe today. People get robbed and or have identities stolen when such info is online or in the paper. I will not want or have such for DH or myself. 

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Agree when obituaries are  published in today's world, you are letting ANYONE know you  are gone, it's  really not  safe .

You could also  be letting low life individuals know family will be out of  home for viewing, burial .

Remember a case in NY of a female wearing different wigs,breaking into homes,while families were  at viewing or burial . She was stealing jewelry after reading obituaries, in area newspapers where she didn't  even lived,finally was apprehended with wigs in her car and guess you could call a noisy neighbor calling the PD about a car riding up and down the road of a deceased person,knowing the family was at the funeral home.

[chlema]

My DH was very clear on what he wanted.  No viewing, period.  So we did as he wanted.  Placed his ashes on the hutch along with a few pictures and a can of beer, just as he requested.  We had family and a few friends here in the home, very casual, very comforting to me.  He always said he did not want to have a viewing where people would remark on how great he looked.  He said, what, I'm dead how's that looking good, so have some food and a beer or two and remember me fondly.