A Few Extra Pounds.... - Page 3

kate2357 · ‎02-26-2012

@Kachina624 wrote:
@kate2357 You too?

My mother is unable to care about anyone but herself. She is a pathological narcissist with a horrible temper. She was both physically and emotionally abusive to all of her children. She was married 7 times before I was 16 years old. She went on to marry several more times. I actually lost track after I went away to college.

She stole money from all of her children, even her disabled son. She took $10,000 of money he had managed to save over the years and told him she deserved it and he didn't need the money.

I was determined to build a better life for myself and I have. But that sort of upbringing, IMO, does cause issues that need to be reolved. I have been luckier in that regard than my siblings.

Sorry for the downer on what was a lighthearted post by op.

"What we practice daily is what we build a life on. Practice peace, love & kindness."

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

@kate2357 You should be commended for your resiliency and determination in overcoming the rotten hand you were delt. We're there supportive adults along the way who were able to help you?

The cruelty and atrocities committed against children and animals, all innocents, are truly horrible and a blight on our society. We still do a deplorable job of assuring the safety of the weakest among us.

I'm glad you're okay and doing well. You seem like a lovely person despite it all.

New Mexico☀️Land Of Enchantment

kate2357 · ‎02-26-2012

@Kachina624 wrote:
@kate2357 You should be commended for your resiliency and determination in overcoming the rotten hand you were delt. We're there supportive adults along the way who were able to help you?

The cruelty and atrocities committed against children and animals, all innocents, are truly horrible and a blight on our society. We still do a deplorable job of assuring the safety of the weakest among us.

I'm glad you're okay and doing well. You seem like a lovely person despite it all.

@Kachina624

Yes there were a few supportive adults along the way. The biggest positive influences came from my first college roommate and her family. We have been friends for almost 50 years. And my husband and his family have also been loving and supportive.

I think the biggest obstacle when coming from an abusive family situation is learning to trust other people ... that there are actually people who don't lie, scream, yell, hit you ... seems unreal. Freeing yourself from abusive relationships takes time and I think a bit of luck.

I agree with you that as a society we don't always look out for those most in need. Our neighborhood/community has several charity events tied to helping those in need. We focus our efforts primarily on families and seniors. It is a secular volunteer group and we have fun while raising money to help others. It's my way to pay back the universe for my own good fortune.

"What we practice daily is what we build a life on. Practice peace, love & kindness."

rms1954 · ‎06-06-2019

It's something you never get over. The only positive is I promised myself I would never ever ever utter a cruel word or raise my hand to my children. I have a son and daughter who are loving, giving, kind and caring people. I love them dearly. I can die knowing I left the world a better place leaving them here.

rms1954 · ‎06-06-2019

@Kachina624 BTW your post was very funny. Sorry for being a downer ... I should not have brought up my troubles.

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

@rms1954 It's fine, don't worry about it. That one of the nice things about this board, it can be a sounding board for issues that are on our minds. There will always be others willing to listen and maybe offer advice or commiseration.

I noticed you were missing for awhile. Have you been okay?

New Mexico☀️Land Of Enchantment

rms1954 · ‎06-06-2019

@Kachina624 wrote:
@rms1954 It's fine, don't worry about it. That one of the nice things about this board, it can be a sounding board for issues that are on our minds. There will always be others willing to listen and maybe offer advice or commiseration.

I noticed you were missing for awhile. Have you been okay?

Was in the hospital for two weeks. Thanks for asking.

Silhouettes shadow · ‎06-24-2017

I too am so very sorry you had to endure such cruelty and pain. The love you have given to your children is your legacy that will be held in their hearts forever. Beautiful!

I can relate so much to what you and some other's have shared. I won't go into it because it's giving me heart palpitations just thinking of it. The scars never leave even with having forgiven those that hurt us so deeply.

"Be Blessed" Midnight Shadow

SurferWife · ‎12-12-2010

@rms1954 wrote:
I was afraid to go out alone after dark and my mother always told me not to worry about being kidnapped ... once they got me under a streetlight and saw how ugly I was they would run the other way.

@rms1954

Bless your heart. That's a horrible thing for a mama to say to her child.

Time is just a drop in the bucket compared to eternity. It isn’t how long you live that matters; it is how well you are prepared to die. ~~Colonel Robert B. Thieme, Jr.

LuvSoCal · ‎07-18-2010

@rms1954 wrote:
@Imaoldhippie wrote:
@rms1954 .............Im so very sorry your mom said a very unkind thing to you. If she would say that I bet she said other hurtful things to you. I was raised by a controling, verbal and physical abusive mother so I know how things like that can hurt.
We share something in common. She was both verbally and physically abusive to me. None of my other siblings. She really didn't like me and I'll never know why.

@rms1954 I'm so sorry that you were treated that way. Maybe she resented you for being pretty and tried to convince you that you were not. Just a thought.