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[Zhills]

I feel the same way, However, my children are in their late 50s and seem to have lost just as many!  Every week it seems another of their friends leaves us.  So young for life to be over.

[vermint]

I'm 62 and still have my dad...plus every single one of my blood related aunts & uncles (though a couple of their spouses have died). On the other hand, 3 of my cousins are dead...all before the age of 50. I've never lost a close friend, either, though a number of people that I was "friendly" with have died. I consider myself blessed! I know at my age that will start changing very soon.

DH has lost both parents, nearly all of his aunts & uncles, and any number of cousins. No close friends have died, though.

[hckynut]

Generally speaking, the smaller ones immediate family, the fewer true loved ones. In my case it was my mother my 3 older sisters, one that died of cancer at age 52, in 1989. One grandmother on my maternal side was close to a true loved one.

I am not one that has ever gone around telling friends I love them, not even good friends. The word love for me has much more meaning than just being a friend, that I reserve for only special people in my life. May be yet another gender thing, but I have not had any male "friends" say thpse words, but several female friends of mine and my wife's, say those words, but I do not respond in kind because of the above.

Age comes with many costs, but like life itself, a person has to always be the one to make themselves happy. At times that seems impossible, but with the right frame of mind and the determination to do so, it can be done.

Once again, physical and mental fitness play a very big role. The more physical function a person loses, the more likely their loss of happiness. To me Independence has always meant "taking care of yourself in all aspects of life, including my own happiness". 

hckynut(john)

[LilacTree]

I still have my four daughters and my six grandchildren, two brothers and a large extended family.  Also, most of my friends when I was working were all much younger than me.  Although I don't see much of them anymore, they are still alive.

I've lost my parents and my beloved sister (six years ago Aug. 12).  For someone my age, I am doing better than most.  I am very lucky.

My girls have lost many friends to automobile accidents, drug overdoses, and several suicides.  They lost their father a year ago this past January.  He was my ex, and it did make me sad.

[happycat]

Yes, I'm afraid so.

[blackhole99]

My parents died fairly young by today's standards and I have had family members and friends die in the prime of their lives. If indeed we walk the walk and talk the talk and believe that we will be rewarded in heaven, there should not be all this angst over death.

[QueenDanceALot]

My grandmother always said the worse thing about getting old was outliving all your friends and loved ones.

[MalteseMomma]

I have out lived everyone. 

I am all that is left of my maiden family, my DH family and my much loved  neighbors 

Aside from thinking about them ,cause I am now finally "old" ,I am happy and enjoying life 

My own kids and my many,many grandkids and great grands, keep me going

[Happiness Is Inside JOB]

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@hckynut wrote:

Generally speaking, the smaller ones immediate family, the fewer true loved ones. In my case it was my mother my 3 older sisters, one that died of cancer at age 52, in 1989. One grandmother on my maternal side was close to a true loved one.

I am not one that has ever gone around telling friends I love them, not even good friends. The word love for me has much more meaning than just being a friend, that I reserve for only special people in my life. May be yet another gender thing, but I have not had any male "friends" say thpse words, but several female friends of mine and my wife's, say those words, but I do not respond in kind because of the above.

Age comes with many costs, but like life itself, a person has to always be the one to make themselves happy. At times that seems impossible, but with the right frame of mind and the determination to do so, it can be done.

Once again, physical and mental fitness play a very big role. The more physical function a person loses, the more likely their loss of happiness. To me Independence has always meant "taking care of yourself in all aspects of life, including my own happiness". 

hckynut(john)

Oh, what wisdom.  I need to print this so I can re-read it over and over.  Thank you!!

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