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Miracles Along the Way #6

by ‎06-17-2016 01:39 PM - edited ‎07-06-2016 05:39 PM

I will never forget Tuesday, October 6, 2015. That was the day Beth’s platelets crashed to dangerously low levels. I was more scared on that day than I had ever been in my life. God sent that cardinal to my bird feeder (as I wrote about in my last blog) so that I would know He was with me on what was  the worst day of my life. I believe that with all of my heart. I needed to know He was with me in the midst of all of the chaos and fear and seeing that cardinal gave me some peace and comfort in the midst of this great storm.

 

I called my sister, Margie Lou, on my way to the hospital. She lives in Wisconsin so I don’t see her as often as I would like. She was my constant prayer partner during the last three years of Beth’s life. She prayed a powerful prayer with me that day on the phone. I told her, “Margie Lou, I’m driving but I need you to pray like you have never prayed before because Beth’s life hangs in the balance and we need a miracle.” She rattled the gates of heaven.

 

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When I walked into Beth’s hospital room there was a sense of concern but not a sense of panic. Dr. O and my daughter, Kirstyn, explained the situation and informed me they ordered a bag of platelets to be infused through Beth’s IV. They were on a fast track and would give it to her as soon as possible. We were all praying that this bag of platelets would boost Beth’s numbers out of the danger area. I remember how my heart sank when they gave her the bag and her platelet count crashed even further from 3,000 to 2,400.

 

Dr. O asked Kirstyn and me to step out into the hall where he told us that he had been in touch with Beth’s primary cancer doctor in Philadelphia. She wanted Beth transferred down to the University of Pennsylvania Hospital as soon as possible. He explained that Beth needed HLA Matched Platelets. The Red Cross began searching the country to find platelets that were perfectly matched to Beth’s. Through a series of computer tests and algorithms (all of which were beyond my understanding) they would be able to find platelets that were almost an exact match to Beth’s. The problem was that Beth’s body was sensing the regular platelets were a foreign substance and was making anti-bodies to attack the new platelets. Basically, she was chewing them and destroying them before they could do their job. I didn’t understand all of it, but I put my faith in God and our capable team of doctors. 

 

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The morning gave way to afternoon as we waited anxiously for word on when the transfer would take place. Two amazing people who I work closely with at QVC, Jack and Caroline, came and visited Beth and me earlier in the week along with a few close friends. I am so fortunate to work for such wonderful and caring people. Of course, Beth was the kind of person who just drew good people to her. Several of her close friends also came by.  We had to be selective about who we let come into Beth’s room as she was tired and didn’t want many visitors. On this afternoon my boss, Jack, came by one more time to wish me well and to let me know that Beth and I were in everyone’s prayers at QVC. I am crying tears of gratitude as I write this.  Another good friend named, Steve, was there and everyone waited patiently for me, as I went between Beth’s room and the waiting room.

 

We finally received word that the ambulance would be there around 7pm to take Beth UPenn Hospital. It is an hour away. I drove home immediately to pack a bag. I planned to follow the ambulance and stay with Beth in her room. (Wow, this is really hard to write.) All of the emotions of that day just come flooding back as I tell you this.) When I got back to Beth’s room all of the nurses and doctors were coming into her room to hug her and wish her well. They literally lined up in the hall as they wheeled her out and many of them were crying. Beth had touched everyone on that floor in a deep and meaningful way and they all fell in love with her. She was such an amazing person that nurses actually came in early so they could be assigned to her care. Her smile and her spirit was miraculous even through her darkest days. (miracle #12.)

 

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I remember hugging Beth and telling her that I loved her and that God had everything under control. I assured her she was going to be ok. As I went into the room to collect all of her belongings a wave of fear flooded over me. I honestly didn’t know if she was going to make it. As I started on my long drive to the Hospital in Philadelphia I was more scared than I had ever been in my life. I called Kirstyn and told her how I was feeling and she said, “Dad, you’ve got this. Five years ago I don’t know if you could have handled this, but you have learned so much about mom’s condition and you have turned into an excellent caregiver. I can’t be there right now but I have all of the confidence in the world in you.” I was so thankful for her support and confidence, but I knew I couldn’t handle it without God’s strength. I prayed all the way to the hospital and quietly asked God to heal Beth’s body and to continue to give her grace and comfort. I spoke to Him, “I have no idea what lies ahead but I know you do and I know you are walking with us on this incredibly difficult journey.” I’m glad I didn’t know exactly how difficult it was about to get.   

 

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Thank you for reading my blog and for keeping me and my family in your prayers.

 

Dan Wheeler

 

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Comments
by CB22
on ‎06-17-2016 02:59 PM
Dan, how beautiful..I'm crying too. You were always there for her and that's what matters...God Bless You.
by Keys Fan
on ‎06-17-2016 03:17 PM

Dan, I finally figured out to how to sign into your blogs. These have been most useful to me as I lost my husband to cancer 20 years and have gone through so many thngs you have.

 

Today's blog has me in tears as I recall the days of waiting and caring for my husband; you were an excellent caregiver to Beth.

 

God was with us on our journey through cancer (my son has been battling it for 3 years now) and as a family we, too, believe in the mighty power of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ and of prayers.

 

God bless you as you and your family face the first Father's Day without your beloved Beth. I am certain she has made that a special day for you each year.

 

Your Sister in Christ,

Jocelyn Wetzel aka Keys Fan

by widgetww
on ‎06-17-2016 03:17 PM

That was so hard to read!!Thank you for sharing!! I know how hard that was for you to write!!!You were a great husband and care giver!! Beth was a lucky lady to have someone as kind as you and you were so lucky to have a someone as sweet as Beth!!Many people don't have a love like that!! I believe yours and Beth's relationship with the Lord helped you both!! This blog is a testament of your great love for each other!!!😇😇 GOD BLESS DAN P.S. WHEN MY PARENTS DIED A WEEK PART  I HAD THE SAME EXPERIENCE WITH CARDINALS COMING TO MY BACK YARD. I WAS HAVING TROUBLE WITH MY EX-HUSBAND AND FELT SO ALONE GOD PULLED ME THROUGH IT AND GAVE ME STRENGTH TO FINALLY END THE ABUSE. MY MOTHER ALWAYS TOLD ME WHEN I GO I WILL DO EVERYTHING I CAN TO LET YOU KNOW IM FINE. THEN THE CARDINALS CAME!!Sorry Dan Thats part of my miracle story AGAIN GOD BLESS AND ENJOY YOUR GRANDCHILDREN AND GIRLS😇😇😇😇😇

by sueokie
on ‎06-17-2016 07:19 PM

Dan. Thank you for sharing this. I cannot imagine having 1/3 of the strength that you have to share this with all of us. You deserve more than a thank you. I am at a loss for words so I will just say God bless you.

 

by queen2000
on ‎06-17-2016 09:16 PM

Dan , I just wanted you to know your in my prayers everyday and have been since Beth went to heaven ! I pray that God will give you his peace beyond our understanding . God bless you.

 

by flushing
on ‎06-17-2016 09:25 PM

Dan, I write this in tears after reading your recent blog on Beth's journey.  One thing I know is that your strength and love for Beth surely carried her thru many days and nights.  God bless you, Dan.  You are very special and thanks for sharing your blogs.  Again, may you have a Blessed Father's Day with your daughters and family.

by RubyValentine222
on ‎06-18-2016 05:35 AM

Dan, Following your journey always brings happiness and tears. Thank you for sharing these memories with us and blessing all along the way. What a tribute to the fine and loving woman Beth is. I am sure she was blessed and it made her passage easier with your tremendous love and support. Happy Fathers Day and God bless you always.

by
‎06-18-2016 07:20 AM - edited ‎06-18-2016 07:21 AM

Dan, thank you for sharing these intimate moments of love and faith. Crying along with you now.

by
on ‎06-18-2016 02:06 PM

Dan, you are going to be okay. God Bless. Smiley Happy

by lynn43
on ‎06-18-2016 03:54 PM

Your wife was a pretty lady and a strong person. You are also very strong for jsut taking the time to write all these blogs. I havr read all your blogs.  Thanyou for sharing so much about your wife and family. Stay strong Dan and Goldbless you and your familySmiley Happy

by
on ‎06-19-2016 01:56 AM

I would be very happy to have a husband and family so caring.  Your wife had a lovely life with you and the children.  You all attended her well for the joy she gave you before her illness.  Thank you for sharing all these tender, yet many painful, moments with those of us who care for you.

by
on ‎06-19-2016 02:18 PM

What a lovely photo of you and Beth together at the start of this blog, Dan!  You were right to reassure her as she was transferred to the other hospital.  I'm sure it was a great and necessary comfort to her.  I'm so sorry that they were unable to save her, but it sounds as if many miracles made the time you had together even after her diagnosis special and time well spent.  Although she was taken from you too soon,the two of you had decades of happiness and health.  You are wisely processing the significant events related to your grief, but once that is done you will be able to concentrate more on the far greater number of happy times.  Perhaps you could plant a garden not only with some of Beth's favorite flowers (if you don't already have one) but also with plants that attract cardinals.  You can hear and see them at dawn and dusk.  This might be a welcome sight during the winter.  I know I always enjoy seeing them in the trees behind my house.

 

Let us know when your new grandchild arrives. 

by tuttifaye
on ‎06-20-2016 08:15 AM

Dan, thank you for this blog.. It has touched my heart. Love you and continue praying for you and your family.   SAM_4231.JPG

by bailyboo
on ‎06-20-2016 10:36 AM

Dan,

       Thank you for sharing with us .As I read you story I was crying it brought back a lot of memories for me, of the day my husband and I were told he could not get another stem cell transplant  They said.due to low platelets they never got back uo to 50  .At that point we were  told the hardest news there was no more they could for him . He passed not many months later .I was blessed to have such a wonderful persom in my life . I thank you again for sharing your Beth with us .Sending you a hug

 

Baily

by radc
on ‎06-20-2016 08:22 PM

Dear Dan,

 

Despite the fact that I have been with QVC (and you) from the beginning I am deeply sorry to say that I am only just learning about the loss of your beloved Beth.  My heart breaks for you, and, I am so thankful that you have shared your journey with all of us.  You are, indeed, helpiing all of us to learn the lesons of grace, stength, and gratitude during life's most difficult times.

 

Although you must already know this...Beth must be so very happy to know of your moving words of love and admiration for her.  She must be deeply comforted to know that you miss her every day; that you think of her everyday; that you will always see her as the most beautiful woman you've ever known, and, that she will always be the love of your life.  I'm sure that leaving you must have been the hardest thing she's ever had to do.  She is wating...love never ends.

 

With heartfelt sympathy and love,

Rebecca    

by
on ‎06-26-2016 11:53 PM

 

Dan,

I agree with others that the strength you show now and in the days of Beth's illness are inspiring!  What a wonderful tribute you have paid to her!

I went through a very hard emotional period in my life when my mother had died...I missed her so much and needed her with me for guidance.  But I found when I prayed to her for strength, I truly felt her presence with me, and firmly believe that she guided me through one of the most difficult times in my life.  Our loved ones never leave us...their spirit lives on within us and around us.  I also believe that they can see us in our everyday lives after they're gone.  I'm sure you feel her around you...and she gives you strength to write these blogs and relive what must have been some of the hardest days of your life.  You were so lucky to have had each other for as long as you did.  Even though her life was too short, you have to think that some people live their whole lives never finding the kind of love you two had.

Bless you for sharing your memories with us, and bless your whole family...your daughters and grandchildren must bring you great comfort and joy for within them lies a little piece of your Beth!