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Miracles Along the Way #5

by ‎06-10-2016 02:26 PM - edited ‎06-10-2016 02:29 PM

My 94 year-old mom loves cardinals. She believes they are God’s way of letting her know everything will be alright when she sees a male cardinal. Beth and I adopted that belief many years ago. And lo’ and behold, a male cardinal shows up at the bird feeder just outside our kitchen window during our darkest moments.

 

Beth was admitted to our local hospital on Sunday, September 27, 2015. Her fever came back at dinner time so my daughters and I took her to the Emergency Room. I was scheduled to be on the air at QVC for the 9pm and 11pm hours. Fortunately, the hospital is five minutes away from QVC Studio Park. I stayed at the hospital as long as I could. I remember as I was driving to the Q that I was becoming very concerned about the way things were going with Beth’s health. 

 

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When I returned to the hospital around 12:15a.m., Beth was just getting settled into her room. We noticed a bright red rash was becoming prominent on her legs. As always, Beth remained in good spirits and told me to go home and get some rest. She always thought about everybody else. We wondered whether the rash was a reaction to an anti-biotic she was given in the Emergency Room a couple nights earlier.

 

Kirstyn, Kelsey and I were with her most of the next day. I spent ten precious hours in her room until I had to leave for work around 8pm that night. The next morning we noticed Beth said some strange things and she seemed to be confused. That confusion worsened as the week went on. At one point, Kirstyn (who is an amazing nurse and guided us through the medical world for three years) was worried her mom may have suffered a stroke. Our doctor, Dr. O., who was our primary care physician at this hospital did not believe that was the case. The minute I met Dr. O. I knew he was a very special man. He was always so upbeat and encouraging. His faith and positivity just lit up the room. The first day I met him he asked how I was doing. I said, “Well I have been doing a lot of talking to the Great Physician about our patient.” He grinned from ear to ear and he said, “Well, that is who I talk to in order to gain wisdom to treat all of my patients.” I knew God had worked it out for us to have Dr. O. as our primary doctor there.

 

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One day Kirstyn told me I needed to get out of the hospital and take a break for an hour or two. I tried to be a warrior in front of my family and never would I break down emotionally in Beth’s room. However, I was growing weary and the pressure was starting to build up, so I took her advice and went out for a little fresh air. The second I stepped onto the elevator, I couldn’t hold in my emotions any longer and I broke down and started to weep. When the elevator doors opened on the first floor I saw Dr. O. walking toward me. He said, “What is the matter Mr. Wheeler?” I told him I was a bit overwhelmed by what was happening to Beth. He said, “But Mr. Wheeler you know Jesus and you also know that He has Beth in His hands.” I thanked him and said I needed that reminder. He then said something amazing: “Let me tell you something. I finished eating my lunch in the cafeteria and was hurrying back up to the second floor to see my patients. When I got to this very elevator something told me to turn around and walk back to the cafeteria. When I got there I had no idea why I walked back in and so, I turned around and started walking back toward the elevator. When I saw you step off, I knew exactly why God delayed me. He made sure I was here at just the right time to help you.” (miracle #10)

 

God knows what we need during our most difficult times. Dr. O. gave me a big hug and told me he was praying for me. How many medical doctors do that?

Dr. O. was right. Beth did not have a stroke and her scans and MRI came back clear. However, the rash on her legs was getting much worse and her hemoglobin, white cell count and platelets were all very low.

 

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Kirstyn and I took turns sleeping in Beth’s hospital room. If you ever have a loved one in serious condition you want to stay with them as much as you can. Even the best hospitals make mistakes, so it is important to keep an eye on everything. Kirstyn stayed with her mom the evening of Monday, Oct. 5. The next morning I came into the kitchen for my morning cup of coffee and as I took my first sip my phone rang. Kirstyn said, “Dad you need to get here quick. Mom’s platelets have crashed!” Platelets are very important as they help our blood clot when we have a cut or a scratch. I asked, “How low are they?” She said, “Three thousand.”  A normal platelet count for a healthy person is somewhere between one hundred fifty thousand and four hundred thousand.” I hung up and looked out at our empty bird feeder. I told the Lord that I sure could use a good sign. I took Zoey outside and when I came back into the kitchen I looked out the window and out of nowhere, a male cardinal flew up and landed on the bird feeder. He looked directly at me in the window. Wow! He was right on time and just when I needed to see him the most. By the way, I hadn’t seen him for at least a month. (miracle #11)

 

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Thank you for reading my blog about Beth and my family. I appreciate your support more than you know.

 

If you would like to read any of my past blogs, click here.

 

God bless.

Comments
by poshlove
on ‎06-10-2016 02:49 PM

I have been so moved reading all of the blogs and also your thoughts for the day.  You are truly a man of God and it shows in all that you do.  This blog is so  amazing and even thought I have tears streaming down my cheeks, I feel so thankful that I too, have a strong faith in God.  With Him by our side miracles do happen in His timing and with His wisdom.  I love cardinals and butterflies as well and believe that both are truly God's messengers bringing us His peace, as well as reminding us that loved ones who have passed are near.  I pray that you will continue to be strong in the Lord and that He will give you His peace as you honor your sweet Beth through these blogs.

 

by Cindyo
on ‎06-10-2016 02:53 PM

As always...you make me think, believe and mist up a bit.  Thank you Dan for sharing your deepest thoughts with us.  We may help you...BUT...you help us all even more.  Blessings and love here in Michigan .

 

by
on ‎06-10-2016 03:00 PM

Dan, I do not read many blogs but when I see yours..I am reading with happiness and sadness.  The love you have for your wife comes through in your writings.  Miracles do appear to us.  We have to seek them out!  Be happy.

by mr cranky
on ‎06-10-2016 05:05 PM
Dan all I can say I walked this journey with my baby sister for five years! I feel your pain! It's a terrible journey but also a spiritual one! You learn to trust the Lord! Crying as I read your post! My thoughts,prayers, and love to you, your girls & Beth! Also the new baby is a blessing from God! He takes a life & gives one❤❤❤❤🌈🌈🌈🌹🌹🌹
by
on ‎06-10-2016 05:21 PM

God bless you Dan and your family. I to believe in the red bird as a sign. 

by dlucy
on ‎06-10-2016 09:05 PM

I love reading about Beth and your beautiful family.   You and family are such an inspiration to me and lots of people.  Thank you

by Margolynn1
‎06-11-2016 01:50 AM - edited ‎06-11-2016 01:53 AM

Dan as  I  follow your blogs it just dawned on me that God and Beth have left you with a very important task...to share/spread the faith with your followers and your audience.  Through Beth, the Lord has allowed you to experience his grace  and now we are inspired by your writings of his miracles and love.  Thank you for reminding me that we are not alone.  Sometimes I feel so lonely and such self-pity that I forget to turn to him for strength and patience.  We both shall meet our loved ones again.  God bless you from Michigan!

by mamakins
on ‎06-11-2016 01:55 AM

Dan, Thank you so much for taking the time to write these blogs. They are so precious and intimate and a real testament to the love that you have for your Beth. Reading these each time you write them is such a priveledge for me. I am very grateful that you have chosen to write this blog as I can only imagine how difficult it is. Yet, I see such courage and strength and an inspiration to me and my life. I read all that you and your family have endured and I realize once again that no matter what I must face or go through that even if I must go through the valley of the shadow of death, I can because of Jesus. You have shown me the amazing strength that we can draw upon in times of desperation as well as everyday. Thank you for showing me just how amazing our Jesus is. I know that  Jesus is so pleased with how beautifully you represent him and  you express him in all you do...everyday in everyway. I am so honored to be able to read your blog and I enjoy your daily thoughts. May God continue to strengthen you, heal and comfort you. Blessings of Peace and joy.

by RubyValentine222
on ‎06-11-2016 03:54 PM

Once again I read of your courage and love for your wife. She was and is a beautiful soul and through your words her shining spirit and the respect and love you have for each other shines through. God bless you Dan as you have shared o much of your emotions and miracles that you have experienced and I believe that you were blessed to be a blessings to many who love you.

 

 

Thank you Dan

by sueokie
on ‎06-11-2016 07:16 PM

Beautifully told by a loving person. Dan you have more strength than I can even imagine. These have been so heart warming . Thank you for sharing. God bless.

by luvknines
on ‎06-12-2016 07:47 AM

Thankyou Dan for your sharing the many miracles that happened in your lovely wife''s life and yours through out your journey.  Your wife had such grace and beautyas she faced each day. I thank you for sharing this beautiful story of faith, grace and love with us.  I believe in miracles and also the cardinals as your mother told you.  My mom told me a simiar belief.  I also believe that we are always where God wants us to be as your doctor told you about his reason for meeting you at the elevator.  I read your posts and it reminds me of who is in charge of our lives I thank God everyday for allowing me to wake up and face another day.  So I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your blog.  May God bess you give you peace, and the knowledge of how your blog is helping so many of us as we go thru our own trials.  Cheri

by
on ‎06-12-2016 03:17 PM

Inspiring ~

by
on ‎06-12-2016 09:02 PM

Dan, that's the wonder of God.  

 

I've been in your shoes and remember what it was like to have faith in God and still feel my happiness being threatened.  

 

I've never looked at it as a weakness in faith or anything.  

 

Even if we have faith and know that the souls and spirit of our 'beloved' will be welcomed into God's arms, we are human and it's difficult to let go of the physical.  The thought of not being able to hear our beloved's voice or touch their face inspires such a fear, you feel like your being smothered - you just can't breathe - it's too much to imagine.

 

Then, the wonder of God.  He sends angels to cross our path.  He sends signs, like the cardinal to let you know, Dan, I've got you :-)

 

 

by
on ‎06-12-2016 10:39 PM

Dan, reading your blog posts are so comforting and inspirational to us.  May God continue to bless you and your wonderful family.  Your love for Beth shines bright and serves as a beacon to all.  And yes,  Miracles do happen!!!! 

Blessings,

Wayne and Cheryl C.

by
on ‎06-13-2016 09:18 PM

Thank you, Dan for sharing so much of your life and your sweet family. God Bless you and yours and thank you for being a blessing to so many. I know lots of folks read your blog, but don't always post. You are helping more than you know.

Thanks friend.

by princessdelbrugge
on ‎06-14-2016 10:27 PM
Dan the journey was hard I'm very sorry.. Some of us are loosing a family member with cancer & your precious words remind us to love, have faith & to be brave. We are not alone and miracles happen💛
by starbuc
on ‎06-15-2016 06:46 PM

Thank you Dan for sharing your journey: I lost my husband 2 years ago 6/21: but it was very fast: massive coronary:

no signs or symptoms! My husband believed that if a dove was at our bird feeder: the Holy Spirit was with us:

i am thrilled to see doves at my bird feeder: I do have a bird that comes to my feeder that looks like a cardinal:

but in Tucson, we donot have cardinals! 

So, between doves and cardinals: I think we are both covered with angels!

 

God Blless you and your family!! 

If you ever get to Tucson: I will buy you a Starbucks!!

 

MK

by why me2
on ‎06-17-2016 10:58 AM

Thanks Dan that was touching. I myself have spent many hours in the hospital worried about a loved one (my girlfriend). When she left me on June 05 2016 to be with JesusI kept asking why why. Why could I have not been home with her and maybe I could have saved her. Why didn't God save her and say no it's not your time yet. Why doesn't she come back and tell me a mistake was made and it is not her time. I wish I could see my cardinal.

Thanks for listening Dan, I enjoyed reading you blog and listeng to your word of the day.

Have a great day Alan

by raean
on ‎06-18-2016 07:49 PM

Dan 

 

sorry for for your loss! God has a master plan for all of us! I never read blogs but heard you on Qvc and didn't know of your loss. I too lost my love of my life March of last year! Prior to him in 2 yrs over 6 blood relatives and more friends. The last now three yrshave been overwhelming! 

I pray you continue to keep on keeping on and know it's hard for all of us! 

 

Thanks for sharing,

Debbie

by
on ‎06-20-2016 01:47 AM

Dan thank you for telling her story.

by rose5240
on ‎06-30-2016 02:20 PM

Dan, I read your blog often. I felt the need to comment today.  First let me say, your life and happy memories of Beth are heartfelt.  My son, Brian, died in a single auto accident, 18 years ago. Shortly if not immediately after his death Red birds male and female show up on my back porch bannester everyday, all through the day. I too knew the ole wife's tale of the Redbird.  My house burnt completely on November 26, 2013.  When I purchased a different home, the first day we were moving in, there he was. The beautiful Redbird on my back porch, just looking at me turning his head side to side looking straight at me.  I knew my Angel was with me as I faced the sadness of losing my home, Brian had lived in. I recently bought a smaller home as to down sized for me and my husband.  I see birds in my yard and an occasional Redbird.  I miss my daily visits.  But I don't have a back porch for him to feel at home. Guess that is the next job on my husband's HONEY DO LIST. lol   Love to you Dan, as you travel the new roads to your future.