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Miracles Along the Way #3

by ‎05-20-2016 03:01 PM - edited ‎05-20-2016 03:02 PM

As we moved into August of 2015, I had a feeling deep inside that we were heading for an even more challenging time. I had seen so many miracles, but every time there was a victory, another challenge soon came along. The roller coaster ride of emotions was picking up steam. Beth wasn’t able to do her chemo sessions as often, because her creatinine level was high. Creatinine measures the efficiency of the kidneys. Chemotherapy is very tough on the kidneys as they have to filter out the chemicals. If a patient’s kidneys shut down then the treatments are for naught. The question that was always in the back of our minds was, “how much are the tumors growing if beth wasn’t getting the treatment?”

 

My brother-in-law, George, and my sister, Margie Lou, brought my mom out for a visit the third week in August. My mom doesn’t like to fly anymore and since they live outside of Milwaukee, Wisconsin, they had a long drive out.  Beth was feeling ok (or at least was able to pretend she felt ok) for the first six days of their visit. In fact, Margie Lou went with us for Beth’s chemo session on Thursday, August 20th. Her creatinine level had fallen into a safe range so we could do the treatment (Miracle #7). I count that as a miracle, since it had been a long time since Beth’s creatinine level was in that range. I remember telling Margie that her prayers paid off. Margie Lou and my mom are “prayer warriors.”  They are the first people I called whenever Beth faced a major challenge. The treatment that day went well and Beth felt pretty good afterwards.

 

Kirstyn’s childhood friend, Cynthia, was getting married the next night.  They started playing soccer together at the age of six and were close friends through high school and college. Beth became very close with Cynthia’s mom, Sherrie. In fact, Beth worked part time at the heating company that Sherrie’s family runs and they treated us like family. Kirstyn had been looking forward to Cynthia’s wedding all year. Beth and I got all dressed up and I decided to have my brother in law, George, take a few pictures of us on the deck before we left. Beth looked absolutely beautiful, as you can see.

 

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Kirstyn and Jeff were there so we took a picture of the four of us during the appetizer hour. I think of that night fondly every time I pass Beth’s closet and see that beautiful fuchsia, black, gold and white pattern. I was thankful that we were able to go to the wedding in spite of everything Beth had been through (miracle #8.) 

 

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We had a wonderful time catching up with many old friends. The ceremony was outside and it was a picture perfect summer day. I remember looking at Beth during the ceremony and thanking God that we were able to make another memory. During the meal Beth asked me to run to the car to get one of her pain pills. She was a warrior and was determined to stay for the duration of the reception. We even got to dance a little bit (we loved to dance). I knew Beth was in more pain then she let on, yet somehow, she managed to smile through it all. I had no idea at the time that night would be one of our last dates.

 

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Some miracles are big and some are small.  These may seem like small miracles but looking back they were really big for me. Get ready to read about some really big miracles in the next few weeks involving a cardinal, an angel, heaven and more.  Thanks for reading these blogs about the love of my life, Elizabeth Ann Wheeler.

God bless,
Dan Wheeler

To read any of my previous blogs, click here.

 

 

Comments
by thekingschild
on ‎05-20-2016 03:37 PM

 

Dan, your strength and faith are inspirational.  I love your word for the day and your blog entries.  Thank you for sharing such intimate details of you time with Beth as you went through this battle.

 

by Cindyo
on ‎05-20-2016 03:41 PM

Always look forward to your blog Dan. Inspiring, moving and so loving....blessings to you here from Michgan .

by K9Lover
on ‎05-20-2016 03:44 PM

Your spirit lifts me. Thank you for sharing such intimate details of your life. May God bless you and yours. 

by shoppermom1234
on ‎05-20-2016 04:42 PM

What a beautiufl blog.. and such a wonderful picture and yes Beth was beautiufl.. Thnk you for being such an inspiration.. 

Blessings and prayers.. to you and your family

by
on ‎05-20-2016 04:50 PM

What Very, Very lucky people, you and your wife were, to have such a great love. 

 

Your loss was heartbreaking, but nothing can ever take away those beautiful memories. 

 

I have always loved this sentiment, that was expressed on a card, after a heart attack claimed my Brother, at 51:

"To have loved, and been loved, is to live forever" 

 

I am betting that a great wish, of your Beth, would be, that you will continue to live your life fully,,and be blessed with many more happy moments💙

by
on ‎05-20-2016 06:22 PM

You and your beloved Beth look as beautiful together as you did in the early pictures you posted of the two of you.  It truly was a match made in heaven.

by troptan
on ‎05-20-2016 06:29 PM

Hi Dan, I hope your Beth and my Denner cross paths in Heaven. The love of my life has been in Heaven for 3 /12 years and I miss him so much. I consantly think of the verse "what God has joined together, let no man put asunder". I cannot wait until I see my husband in Heaven, to never be seperated ever again. What a wonderful day that will be!!!  Take care Dan and God bless. I leave you with these words from Scribble and Crumbs....Someday, I'll no longer ache.The day when space no longer separates us, and our worlds collide, and love will have the final say. The day that you'll be back in my arms, no more sorrow and no more pain. The first day of forever. On that day, all the years of pain, all of the compartmentalization, all the excuses, all the cover ups when the tears won't stop flowing, all the days of barely being able to move under the weight of a shattered heart...All of those days will vanish.  They'll fade away. Grief and pain will be no more when I can once again see your face search for mine

by KarenAZ313
on ‎05-20-2016 08:07 PM
What a beautiful, precious memory. She was a beautiful woman and her smile just lights up her face! 💜 💜
by
on ‎05-20-2016 08:09 PM

Dan, I am so happy that you have shared your journey and Beth's journey with us.  Each season of the first year after Beth's promotion to Heaven will bring memories that will bring you to your knees.  I've taken the journey myself and speak from experience.  I am so glad that you have so many wonderful memories and photographs that you've chosen to share with us. 

 

God Bless You ~ Bernadette

by RubyValentine222
‎05-20-2016 08:57 PM - edited ‎05-20-2016 08:58 PM

Thank you Dan for this sharing of the story. The look that both of you had when you gazed at each other is. true love. Beth is such a special soul and I know she is so very proud of you and your family. It is not easy but what a reunion you two will have in Heaven.I know that you already celebrate your family and your little 9ne yet unborn but they are such blessings and Zoey is in her special way.

by Bichon fan too
on ‎05-20-2016 09:26 PM

Thank you Dan for continuing with your beautiful memories and sharing the miracles of God's blessings in your lives.

by double dee
on ‎05-21-2016 02:06 AM

That was a beautiful day! I'm glad you'll always have that memory  You know there were a lot of miracles along the way for me too Dan as I watch my son fade away  in 6 months from that HORRIBLED disease.  I wish I could have put them down in print as you have.  For everyone out there going through what we have, there are always going to be miracles along the way, that is how The Good Lord eases our pain!  Blessing to you and your family Dan!

by
on ‎05-21-2016 07:25 AM

Her goodness shines through.Dan,"death takes a life but does not end a relationship.You are one good man.Cakies loved you so. You are both blessed.

by
on ‎05-21-2016 08:57 AM

Thank you Dan for reminding us all to appreciate miracles big and small everyday.

 

 

by suzy511
on ‎05-21-2016 03:52 PM

Beth was very blessed to have you to go through all this with her, Dan.  I'm sure she watches over you.  God bless you both always. 💝

by sueokie
on ‎05-21-2016 04:14 PM

Dan thank you for sharing your beautiful memories and miracles. We all need to find the strength that the both of you shared. What a lovely post. God bless.

by Junflopal
on ‎05-21-2016 09:43 PM

Dan, it is such an honor to have you share wife's last yr or more with all of us.  What a beautiful, strong women she was & I understand how deeply you miss her each & every day.    It's an awesome remembrance for Beth & your immediate family that y ou can share so much through your tears of sadness & JOY.  These blogs are not easy to write I know but as you - when my MOM passed through natural causes of aging I wrote for weeks on end things that will go into a book to share with nieces & nephews throughout their years. 

Each time I see you on TV I think of what an awesome, strong father & husband you were to Beth & your family during this duration of sickness.

Prayers are with you & your family every day.

A QVC friend.

 

by psalms
on ‎05-22-2016 01:22 AM

Dan.........I am so sad for you for the loss you have been dealt, but I can also see where God was with you every step of the way to give you the strength you needed..........having been in this same spot so to speak, i totally know what you went thru............my heart goes out to you, but God will see you thru the rest of the way.............Many blessings upon you

Barbara

by
on ‎05-22-2016 09:06 AM

Dan I'm always blessed after reading your blogs. Your strength and faith is so inspiring. This helps strengthen my faith in God. Continued blessings to you and your wonderful family. 🙏🙏🙏

by princessdelbrugge
on ‎05-22-2016 11:27 AM
Dan & Beth your love could move mountains💙
It's beautiful! One day you will reunite thanking the Lord for his grace! Thank you Dan for sharing & inspiring & reminding others to love like this💙💙💙
Our time is short💙
by
on ‎05-22-2016 08:24 PM

This should be written for publication in either a ladies magazine or as a short book paying tribute to those ladies, like yur wife who suffered the agonies of pain and eventual demise through the ravages ofterminal illness, all the while trying to be strong and faithful, trusting in prayer and piling up great memories for posterity.

by happyretired
on ‎05-22-2016 10:26 PM

Hi  Dan,

i lost my husband suddenly last week.  I have been following your blogs since the passing of your beloved Beth.

Thinking this will never happen to me, I am at the beginning of the grieving process and I feel your pain, sadness and

loneliness. I only hope that I can be as brave and  hopeful as you .  We were together for 26 years and l'm  just going through the motions, doing what I have to do.  It helps having my family and grandchildrens love and support.

i hope we can walk through this difficult journey and  move forward in a new life  with memories of our love one 

in our heats. 

Merry

by
on ‎05-23-2016 03:26 PM

Dan...just another lovely segment . 

You are very strong and brave and your faith is amazing to many !!!

And Beth...well I can only say....I really feel like your words have let us just get a glimpse of this precious brave lady !!

Heaven sure has one very very special angel.

Thank you, DAN !