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gazelle77 · ‎03-01-2013

On 10/26/2014 suzyQ3 said:
All depends upon the hard time or the struggle. Nobody should be handed everything on a silver platter, but this cliche is a generalization that can tend to be dismissive of hardships that most of us will hopefully never have to endure.

Why shouldn't someone be handed everything on a silver platter? Who made this fact?

HappyDaze · ‎06-13-2012

On 10/26/2014 Goldengate8361 said: It totally depends on your response to the hard times.... All of life CAN make you stronger. Good counseling also really helps.

I completely agree with this! And "stronger" can be defined in many different ways- stronger in your faith, convictions, physical strength, mindset, motivation, etc..

SFGIANTSGIRL · ‎03-13-2010

The hard times makes the good times that much sweeter and appreciated

Deb

cairnlover · ‎03-10-2010

People say this to make others who are going through difficult times feel better. It is not true. I will always be haunted by the difficult times in my life.

gazelle77 · ‎03-01-2013

On 10/26/2014 cairnlover said:
People say this to make others who are going through difficult times feel better. It is not true. I will always be haunted by the difficult times in my life.

So true!

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

For me having the bad times sure makes the good times look better.

docsgirl · ‎03-09-2010

My dear late husband used to say, 'Enjoy the good times as they will not last forever. Get through the bad times because they won't last forever, either. Life is a roller coaster and we have to go with the ups and downs, do our best, and never give up.' To me, he was the wisest man I ever knew and I was blessed and honored to have been his wife. docsgirl

suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

On 10/26/2014 gazelle77 said:
On 10/26/2014 suzyQ3 said:
All depends upon the hard time or the struggle. Nobody should be handed everything on a silver platter, but this cliche is a generalization that can tend to be dismissive of hardships that most of us will hopefully never have to endure.

Why shouldn't someone be handed everything on a silver platter? Who made this fact?

Good question. I think it's the idea that you give but you then don't expect any responsibility from the recipient.

For example, we provided funds for our daughter's college education but expected her to fund her to fund the costs of attending law school. We wanted her to be responsible in some way for her years of in college.

Does that make sense?

But again, I think there are types of hardships that crush people rather than make them stronger. I'm thinking of those in countries not as fortunate as ours. That's why I think it's a generalization.

I also think that we're all different in how we deal with major problems. Just because some may gain strength from them shouldn't reflect poorly on those who don't bounce back in that way.

~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

bbluvr · ‎05-01-2010

It depends what you take with you from the hard times. I think one chooses if it will make you stronger or not. Bitterness and fear can keep you there.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

On 10/26/2014 bbluvr said:
It depends what you take with you from the hard times. I think one chooses if it will make you stronger or not. Bitterness and fear can keep you there.

So true. Great answer!