Ladyjenn,
I know how very sad you are. I was in the same situation 3 years ago and couldn't stop crying. I finally told God that I couldn't bear it and from then on saw so many signs that my beautiful grandog was there with me in spirit, I started writing them down. I now know he is with me 24/7.
And now for the eyes. I thought the same thing-"I guess I can't cry anymore." I have tried wet tea bags and cucumbers (very soothing) but don't seem to help but the puffy bump under your eye sounds like what I have several times-an opthamalogist said that can happen when our tear ducts get clogged. And several times it turned into something I'd never heard of -blepharitis-what the heck?!(some kind of hideous eye infection)
Anyway she said hold a hot wash cloth as hot as you can stand over your eyes several times a day until it is no longer hot! This worked! I was so relieved esp cause I could take care of it myself anywhere and anytime.
I have gotten some kind of rx ointment in the past for it also(when it looked like it was getting an infection that would spread) from a primary care and that worked too.
but the hot water for the bumps really took care of it.
If it starts to go on my lid, like the lid getting red I've also used otc eye ointments but the hot water worked the best and it was gone in about 2 days and better almost right away.
And may you know your sweet doggie is there with you forever!
"If you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you'll learn things you never knew. Can you sing with all the voices of the mountains? can you paint with all the colors of the wind?"