You can find facial cleansers that are well-balanced. Not sure about bar soaps.
I disagree that petrolatum (petroleum jelly, Vaseline) is necessarily bad for you. Yes, it's a chemical, but that doesn't make it bad. We couldn't exist without chemicals. And the fact is that, no, it is not just something someone scraped out of an oil drum. That is the line that some skincare companies use to scare you into using their products. All the reputable sources I've read say that it's non-comedogenic and perfectly okay for the skin.
~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland