O/T how would you take this? - Page 4

willdob3 · ‎11-01-2010

I'd take it as an awkwardly worded compliment.

Congrats on your new home. It sounds like you've worked hard at making it look nice in a short amount of time.

GSPgirl · ‎01-03-2012

Uh oh, I would be careful with her. You are going to have to learn to ignore her off handed compliments. Take it from me. My girlfriend complains all the time about her sil who says things like this. I have one too that was like this. Thank goodness we moved. I truly believe people say things like this out of jealousy or competiveness. My mom taught me to give sincere compliments.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

I think she was trying to tell you she was impressed. Why would you try to twist it into something bad?

Desertdi · ‎03-13-2010

Of course it's yours......she was just awkward at ""small talk""...........

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keithsmom65 · ‎08-22-2011

Question is confusing, but who cares what someone else says ?

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

Well I get the homey part which I would take as a compliment, but not the question "is all of this yours"? I suppose she could have thought you borrowed some tables/chairs or china from the neighbors.

SnowKita · ‎03-16-2010

Thank you all for your thoughts on this issue. I'll try and address as much as possible. It was not bothering me or ruining my holiday. I am not so old yet, but old enough that other's opinions in this type of matter do not bother me. I just really wanted to know if it should be taken as a complement. I am not the type to let something like this be an issue. I am not looking for trouble or judging. I have no sister and would love if we could develop a closer relationship, we just have not been around each other enough yet. Again, not sure what the "is all of this yours?" meant, maybe time will give me clues. I know they are feeling a little furniture-poor right now moving from apt. to house. Also, no kids vs. us with kids=we have more "stuff". So , thanks for weighing in. I will bring an update if any future visits reveal any new info. Maybe she'll ask me to help her decorate their home-Ha!! ~smiles, SnowKita

vicki is ok · ‎03-15-2010

I agree with some about your SIL feeling nervous. Sometimes it's really hard when you are a new family member to feel a part of the family. As far as the homey part , I do think that was a compliment. Homey to me means comfortable, inviting and full of love.

I remember many years ago when I met my husband's aunt for the third time at some family function. I told her how well she looked and did mean it as a compliment. Well later I found out she was insulted by my remark as she felt like when someone said how well she looked, she took it as meaning she looked Fat!!!! I did talk to her later and told her how sorry I was that she felt insulted and that I certainly never meant to hurt her feelings.

Vicki ${#emotions_dlg.biggrin}$

Mimichic · ‎04-10-2010

My first impression is that she was trying to compliment you on your house and all the beautiful things in it. I think it was just a rhetorical question to show her appreciation of how you have furnished/decorated your house. It was meant to bolster you up, not criticize.