Beauty

[Annabellethecat66]

@SilleeMee Yes I agree with you about the influence the media has over these kids (especially young girls).

I have to tell you all, I don't say much to her about not wearing it.  I don't buy the liquid stuff for her but she doesn't ask me to.  I didn't realize she was wearing it until recently.  The problem I have with it is that teenagers go through so much with breakouts, etc.  That's why I give her my brushes with stuff I get from HSN and QVC (I don't use them).  I also give her all of the extra stuff that comes with these packages the Q sells.  

I did buy her brush cleaner in hopes she'll keep them clean.  I also agree (as the mother of 3 adult girls) how important it is to save the arguments for the big things.  I do also believe though in a mom directing their daughters on things like makeup.  My daughter doesn't need or wear much makeup (unless she's going out then eye makeup).  She has way prettier skin than I ever had so she doesn't need it.

It does surprise me to hear that a STILL 11 year old girl wants liquid makeup and finishing spray for it!  Good grief!  I think it shows the influence of YouTube and whatever it is they are watching.

[sidsmom]

I'm assuming your daughter knows you are giving the grand-daughter brushes, trips to Ulta, etc...correct?   As long as you-your daughter is OK with it, I don't know what this issue is.   Am I missing something?

[brandiwine]

I think it time for parents to parent and not be their kids "friend".  Why the huge rush to be an adult?  Kids are pushed academically and socially so hard.  I overheard some parents criticizing their 11 yr old for not "trying hard enough" in a competitive swim.  The girl was about to cry and I told her you can only do your best.  Please don't feel bad.  The pressure is just awful.  My son and dil pushed our granddaughter into kindergarten after turning 5 a few days before school started.  The rational?  She so smart!  She's not ready.  She's still throwing temper tantrums.  I feel bad for her, her classmates, and the teacher.  Let kids be kids!!!

[fourpaws56]

nothing surprises me anymore in today's world,I couldn't care less if they wear make-up or not...none of my business...

[maestra]

@Annabellethecat66  Try to get her more interested in skincare first to keep her beautiful complexion, then makeup.

Use makeup on an orange to show her skin w/out skincare-good visual.

Then put liquid makeup w/primer on a piece of glass or mirror and explain this is what happens over time w/very good skincare.

She may not care now, but in 15 years at the ripe age of 30 she will.

[Annabellethecat66]

I would never do anything with my grandchildren that wasn't OKed by my daughter.  Yes, of course she knows where I take them.  

I check with her before we go anywhere.  She has to be able to coordinate the time, date, etc.  My daughter hates to shop so she loves it when I take them to the shoe store.  If they get shoes too high she doesn't have a problem with returning them.

It's always been funny because we go to DSW (I love shoes too) and ever since I can remember they've headed right to the high high heels.  They put them on and walk around in them.  When they were young we'd take pictures of them wearing them.  It was funny.

We went the other day and of course they headed there.  After awhile they get serious about the shoes and head over to the tennish shoes or boots. I let them pick out what they want (sometimes it's two pair but mostly it's one pair).  

It was funny because the 15 year old wanted to get these very high heels that were silver slingback.  I said, "What?"  She said, "Grandma this year I get to go to prom.  Mom and Dad wouldn't let me go last year".  She was asked but they said no.  I said, "You should wait until you get the dress because you don't know yet if they'll go with them....then I walked away and wiped the sweat off of my face!  Ha!

They both ended up getting the same style of tennis shoes except the more practical one got gray and the other one got white.  This kid buys white tennis shoes in December and January!  I said, "Don't they get dirty"?  She says no, so what do I know....

But again, my daughter sees all of it.  She just isn't allowed to wear much of it out.  

[Katcat1]

11 and 12 does seem young.  I remember when I was in 8th grade I did wear eyeliner and mascara.  Never blush nor foundation.  When I went into H.S. I stopped with the eyeliner and chose shadow instead.  I guess girls are curious and want to have fun with makeup and their mother should lead them in the right direction.  Waiting until the girl is in their teens.  

[Sawn]

Well, one of the memories that makes me giggle the most is when I was in seventh grade, I wasn't allowed to wear makeup. So I used to sneak it into school and apply it with a very heavy hand, lol! Then I would actually deny having any on when I got home! Now I look back and wonder how I could be so ridiculous, but I must say that I turned out fine. I will say, though, that youtube probably is a big influence for the young girls today. We only had Seventeen magazine!

[Pook]

I was in 8th grade when I started to wear foundation and mascara.  A freshman in high school when I started wearing eyeshadow and liner.  I don't think that is too young.  Anyway the makeup available now is very light and natural looking and doesn't look like the limited choices in makeup that were available when I was young.  I don't see where it is such a big deal to fuss over.  15 is definitely old enough to choose and wear all makeup.

[JustJazzmom]

I do agree with getting your GD started on a good skin care program like always using sunscreen if outdoors. Tell her that highlighter (the tin man look) looks best when subtle. If she looks shiny, then she has appplied too much.