FEAR OF CUTTING - Page 3

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

I don't understand how any woman's hair can get so damaged after only a few months ..... but maybe that's another conversation for another day.

Hair cutters need to be watched!

IMO, If you say something vague and then leave them and go on automatic pilot, you are just asking for trouble.

Another mistake women make (my observation) is they think they should be charged by how much is taken off .... like cutting off 1/4 inch shouldn't be as costly as taking off one inch. It takes just as many cuts, and just as much time, to do the cut whether it's taking off a half inch ... or 3 inches. Same haircut! No one charges for cuts "by the inch".

IMO, sometimes it's better to just live through the growing out stage. If you feel you must go ... and too much is taken off ...... just keep in mind that it's only hair, and it will grow out again.

Mj12 · ‎03-09-2010

My very good friend has very curly hair, she had to look long and hard for a good stylist that specializes in curly hair. Maybe that is an option for you?

I would never "offer to pay X amount" OR not tip (also suggested here). I pay what it costs. Not many professionals want to be bartered with IMO. If not happy, let her know why, don't return.

Good luck. I know how frustrating it can be until we finally have the right haircut we envision.

HSB1204 · ‎12-29-2014

@GingerPeach wrote:
@HSB1204 wrote:
@Shanus Good luck. Unfortunately I've been in the same situation many times. My hair doesn't grow very fast so it's extremely aggravating when you're trying to grown out your hair and you just want a tiny trim and they take off several inches. I've tried it all from telling them "just the bare minimum" to actually holding up my hair and showing them how much I was willing to let them cut off. It didn't work.

I've finally found a wonderful stylist who actually listens to me and she only cuts off what I want her to cut but I've had to deal with a lot of stylists who didn't listen before I found her.
WHY do they do this? Take off INCHES when you have clearly told them a HALF inch?

I gave up. I've been cutting my own hair for years. Now I don't have to fix anybody else's mistakes and if the hair looks good, I'll take the compliment and if not, I take the responsiblity.

@GingerPeach I don't know but I've even had stylists show me how much they would suggest we cut off, I agreed to it and then they still took more than that! It shouldn't be that hard to find someone who will listen to what you say and who will cut the way you ask them to, so I don't blame you for cutting your own hair. My mother-in-law has been cutting her own hair for years and it always looks great.

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

@GingerPeach wrote:
@Trinity11 wrote:
@GingerPeach wrote:
@HSB1204 wrote:
@Shanus Good luck. Unfortunately I've been in the same situation many times. My hair doesn't grow very fast so it's extremely aggravating when you're trying to grown out your hair and you just want a tiny trim and they take off several inches. I've tried it all from telling them "just the bare minimum" to actually holding up my hair and showing them how much I was willing to let them cut off. It didn't work.

I've finally found a wonderful stylist who actually listens to me and she only cuts off what I want her to cut but I've had to deal with a lot of stylists who didn't listen before I found her.
WHY do they do this? Take off INCHES when you have clearly told them a HALF inch?

I gave up. I've been cutting my own hair for years. Now I don't have to fix anybody else's mistakes and if the hair looks good, I'll take the compliment and if not, I take the responsiblity.
@GingerPeach, I have layers in my hair. I would never be able to cut the back. I tried a few years ago and it was a disaster.
I don't mind practicing on myself, @Trinity11, and now there are even helpful Youtube videos that weren't around when I first started. I cut layers.
My first big breakthrough was finding and using Glamour Guide to Hair. Published in 1986 but it includes classic and easy styles still worn today. (Some are outdated, sure, but a lot are still "today.")
It has all sorts of styles from long to short with illustrated instructions on how to cut.
(My copy is in pristine condition. The only Google feature I found on this pans it dreadfully, but they are so wrong. Sorry, Google.)

If you like, I will copy and post relevant pages from the book so you can judge for yourself. Just let me know how you like your hair to look and I'll find an example of the cut that fits the description. Just if you're curious.)

@GingerPeach...thank you for your feedback and sweet offer. I have fine (but lots of it ) hair cut into layers. I need a precision cut so that I have the option of wearing it straight or curled. I used to wear my hair similar to the model's back in the 80's. I have it short now, almost chin length. I confess I love it softly curled so I do put a lot of effort into it. I am a dark natural blonde but have it colored to a soft champagne blonde shade which is close to my natural shade so roots aren't much of a problem.

beautybee · ‎01-11-2012

@GingerPeach I also cut my own hair. I got tired of the stylist not listening to me in spite of my clear directions on what I wanted. The last straw was several years ago when I went to a top stylist in my area. I showed him a picture, told him how I care for my hair, and was very realistic with what my hair could do. As he was cutting, the stylist next to him said, you are cutting off too much hair. That should have been my clue, but I was too late. I walked out of there with a laquered 1980's bubble bob. Probably his idea of what a middle aged woman should look like.

@Shanus Good luck and I hope you get a nice cut!

GingerPeach · ‎03-12-2010

Hi @Trinity11

This might give you an idea. i know your hair is shorter, but this one is for straight hair that's layered. I couldn't make sharper files but I think, since you just wanted a general idea and you already have a great hairdresser, this might be enough to give you a sense of the style of instruction provided. For 1986, it's not too bad.

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GingerPeach · ‎03-12-2010

@beautybee wrote:
@GingerPeach I also cut my own hair. I got tired of the stylist not listening to me in spite of my clear directions on what I wanted. The last straw was several years ago when I went to a top stylist in my area. I showed him a picture, told him how I care for my hair, and was very realistic with what my hair could do. As he was cutting, the stylist next to him said, you are cutting off too much hair. That should have been my clue, but I was too late. I walked out of there with a laquered 1980's bubble bob. Probably his idea of what a middle aged woman should look like.

@Shanus Good luck and I hope you get a nice cut!

Thanks so much, @beautybee.

And @Shanus, I completely forgot what I came here for in the first place: to wish you well and success in getting the cut you want!

[was Homegirl] Love to be home . . . thus the screen name. Joined 2003.

maestra · ‎03-09-2010

Why not take off the wisps yourself?

I'm 4 inches away from my bucket list waist length hair-I feel your anxiety and pain in losing any length.. I'm only to get a trim every 4-6 months; it's the hair color I stress about-I'm doing my own, with help from Sally Beauty.

I hope I dont go green the next time I do it. I have to add some ash to tone down my tendency to pull red.

SurferWife · ‎12-12-2010

@Shanus wrote:
My appt. is this morning at 10. I’m figuring I’ll offer to pay for a full haircut, if that’s her issue, & remind her that her last “trim” set me back 3 months in the growth process. She’s been my stylist for many years. At first, I was going every 3 weeks to have my hair dyed dark to cover grey roots & since she’s a color specialist, when I decided to let my hair go its natural white/silver, she helped w/ that transition. She’s wonderful w/ color, toner, conditioning services, but the CUT scares me. Maybe it’s just me, but at 69, my hair’s not growing as fast as before. Every inch off is 2 steps backwards.

@Shanus...I’ve always thought that a haircut is a haircut, regardless of whether it’s a trim or a “full” haircut. Is that no longer true?

Time is just a drop in the bucket compared to eternity. It isn’t how long you live that matters; it is how well you are prepared to die. ~~Colonel Robert B. Thieme, Jr.