Beauty

[San Antonio Gal]

Good luck at your appointment @Shanus and please let us now how it goes!

[CatsyCline]

Do not cut it.   Do you truly need a cut?   How much damage can your hair  possibly have?     Understand what you are saying about a dusting, however if your stylist cuts 1/8th of an inch and your hair shrinks a 1/ 2 inch with each cut it will take years to grow out. Of course it will be 2 steps back each time.

sometimes a great colorist is not so great with the shears.

[Mary Bailey]

I've been growing out my long layers for all one length. 

DH just trims off the "worst" of the ends.  He also colors my roots when I need to do my whole head every few months.  I color my own roots every other week at temples and part.

[HSB1204]

@Shanus  Good luck. Unfortunately I've been in the same situation many times. My hair doesn't grow very fast so it's extremely aggravating when you're trying to grown out your hair and you just want a tiny trim and they take off several inches. I've tried it all from telling them "just the bare minimum" to actually holding up my hair and showing them how much I was willing to let them cut off. It didn't work.

I've finally found a wonderful stylist who actually listens to me and she only cuts off what I want her to cut but I've had to deal with a lot of stylists who didn't listen before I found her.

[chrystaltree]

I never understood grown women who stay with a hairstylist despite the fact that they don't like the stylists work.  What is the story with that?  I know women from their 80's to their teens and I don't a single woman who find herself in this situation.  Just hoping to get the haircut she wants but sitting there mute while things go wrong...lol   Sorry, that really is funny.   Telling a hairstylist what you want BEFORE she does anything is NOT being comfrontational.  It's being an adult and it's being considerate to the hairstylist because they cannot read our minds.  If you tell her what you are looking for and what you don't want....it's a win-win for both of you.  

[RetRN]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

I never understood grown women who stay with a hairstylist despite the fact that they don't like the stylists work.  What is the story with that?  I know women from their 80's to their teens and I don't a single woman who find herself in this situation.  Just hoping to get the haircut she wants but sitting there mute while things go wrong...lol   Sorry, that really is funny.   Telling a hairstylist what you want BEFORE she does anything is NOT being comfrontational.  It's being an adult and it's being considerate to the hairstylist because they cannot read our minds.  If you tell her what you are looking for and what you don't want....it's a win-win for both of you.  

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A little empathy can go along way when someone else is struggling with an issue. But, glad you have all the answers and solutions in your life. 

[NycVixen]

I had a pixie for several years. I absolutely love it and may go back one day.

What I did was not cut my hair until it was shoulder length. My hair grows extremely fast so following my advice means you will most likely have a long awkward phase. I didn't have any wispy ends during that time since with short hair it gets cut regularly so it was very healthy. I have wavy hair and this is the only way I could grow it out without dealing with bad haircuts.

I would wear headbands etc. until it was long enough. Good luck.

I suggest you go to a new stylist that will be eager to please until your hair grows longer or get a new one altogether.

[GingerPeach]

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@HSB1204 wrote:

@Shanus  Good luck. Unfortunately I've been in the same situation many times. My hair doesn't grow very fast so it's extremely aggravating when you're trying to grown out your hair and you just want a tiny trim and they take off several inches. I've tried it all from telling them "just the bare minimum" to actually holding up my hair and showing them how much I was willing to let them cut off. It didn't work.

I've finally found a wonderful stylist who actually listens to me and she only cuts off what I want her to cut but I've had to deal with a lot of stylists who didn't listen before I found her.

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WHY do they do this?  Take off INCHES when you have clearly told them a HALF inch?

I gave up.  I've been cutting my own hair for years.  Now I don't have to fix anybody else's mistakes and if the hair looks good, I'll take the compliment and if not, I take the responsiblity.

[Trinity11]

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@GingerPeach wrote:

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@HSB1204 wrote:

@Shanus  Good luck. Unfortunately I've been in the same situation many times. My hair doesn't grow very fast so it's extremely aggravating when you're trying to grown out your hair and you just want a tiny trim and they take off several inches. I've tried it all from telling them "just the bare minimum" to actually holding up my hair and showing them how much I was willing to let them cut off. It didn't work.

I've finally found a wonderful stylist who actually listens to me and she only cuts off what I want her to cut but I've had to deal with a lot of stylists who didn't listen before I found her.

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WHY do they do this?  Take off INCHES when you have clearly told them a HALF inch?

I gave up.  I've been cutting my own hair for years.  Now I don't have to fix anybody else's mistakes and if the hair looks good, I'll take the compliment and if not, I take the responsiblity.

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@GingerPeach, I have layers in my hair. I would never be able to cut the back. I tried a few years ago and it was a disaster. 

[GingerPeach]

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@Trinity11 wrote:

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@GingerPeach wrote:

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@HSB1204 wrote:

@Shanus  Good luck. Unfortunately I've been in the same situation many times. My hair doesn't grow very fast so it's extremely aggravating when you're trying to grown out your hair and you just want a tiny trim and they take off several inches. I've tried it all from telling them "just the bare minimum" to actually holding up my hair and showing them how much I was willing to let them cut off. It didn't work.

I've finally found a wonderful stylist who actually listens to me and she only cuts off what I want her to cut but I've had to deal with a lot of stylists who didn't listen before I found her.

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WHY do they do this?  Take off INCHES when you have clearly told them a HALF inch?

I gave up.  I've been cutting my own hair for years.  Now I don't have to fix anybody else's mistakes and if the hair looks good, I'll take the compliment and if not, I take the responsiblity.

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@GingerPeach, I have layers in my hair. I would never be able to cut the back. I tried a few years ago and it was a disaster. 

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I don't mind practicing on myself, @Trinity11, and now there are even helpful Youtube videos that weren't around when I first started.  I cut layers.  

My first big breakthrough was finding and using Glamour Guide to Hair.  Published in 1986 but it includes classic and easy styles still worn today.  (Some are outdated, sure, but a lot are still "today.") 

It has all sorts of styles from long to short with illustrated instructions on how to cut.

(My copy is in pristine condition.  The only Google feature I found on this pans it dreadfully, but they are so wrong.  Sorry, Google.)

If you like, I will copy and post relevant pages from the book so you can judge for yourself.  Just let me know how you like your hair to look and I'll find an example of the cut that fits the description.  Just if you're curious.)