FEAR OF CUTTING

Shanus · ‎05-17-2010

I’ve been growing out my pixie w/ many short layers for about 6 months & have finally reached a curly bob...chin/jaw length. Yes, I can’t avoid a “trim” to get rid of any damaged wisps. What I consider, “Please take a dusting off the ends and do not create layers” & what my stylist considers a “trim” are 2 different things.

My appt. is this morning at 10. I’m figuring I’ll offer to pay for a full haircut, if that’s her issue, & remind her that her last “trim” set me back 3 months in the growth process. She’s been my stylist for many years. At first, I was going every 3 weeks to have my hair dyed dark to cover grey roots & since she’s a color specialist, when I decided to let my hair go its natural white/silver, she helped w/ that transition. She’s wonderful w/ color, toner, conditioning services, but the CUT scares me. Maybe it’s just me, but at 69, my hair’s not growing as fast as before. Every inch off is 2 steps backwards.

So, it’s time to assert myself. In spite of how I come across here, I will go far to avoid any confrontation. Will report back if I have a pixie cut again, crying enough tears to fill a bucket and ready to change stylists.

PINKdogWOOD · ‎05-13-2010

@Shanus Oh my, I feel your pain - first, growing out the pixie as I am doing exactly the same thing!!! and yeah for about the last 4-6 months. The second is going to our stylists to talk about just how much we want/need taken off and praying s/he is listening.

I was just at my salon on Tuesday for color and for the 2nd or 3rd time now, did not get any cut off. I love my girl Audrey and she too is fab with color. We talk about ideas and then she has at it. I never worry about my color.

If I were you and you really feel you need a 'dusting off the ends' I'd really stress upon her that 'as you both know, I'm still growing it out. PLEASE just a dusting, please do not cut anything more than the VERY ends, please not even an inch!'

Hopefully your stylist will get it right this time. And if she again screws it up, NO TIP. Maybe she'll get the hint this time.

Sweet_Serenity · ‎01-22-2016

@Shanus

I know that feeling! Watch closely! Stop her if the case. Good luck!

JeanLouiseFinch · ‎10-03-2011

@Shanus Maybe you were kidding, but saying something like "take a dusting off the ends" is vague so there could be a misunderstanding between you and your stylist. I don't think it's the price being charged as much as it is a communication issue. Make sure she understands you. Before she gets the shears in her hand, the best thing you can do is to specify how much you want taken off - 1/4", 1/2", or whatever, and tell her you're trying to grow out your layers. Actually point on your head where you want the length to fall and so forth. The other thing is to bring a picture with you, of what you're trying to acheive, either by today's cut or what you're trying to grow your hair into. Keep in mind, though, that those pictures of celebrities and such may not be suitable for your hair due to your own amount of hair, texture, cowlicks, etc.

Shanus · ‎05-17-2010

@PINKdogWOOD wrote:
@Shanus Oh my, I feel your pain - first, growing out the pixie as I am doing exactly the same thing!!! and yeah for about the last 4-6 months. The second is going to our stylists to talk about just how much we want/need taken off and praying s/he is listening.

I was just at my salon on Tuesday for color and for the 2nd or 3rd time now, did not get any cut off. I love my girl Audrey and she too is fab with color. We talk about ideas and then she has at it. I never worry about my color.
If I were you and you really feel you need a 'dusting off the ends' I'd really stress upon her that 'as you both know, I'm still growing it out. PLEASE just a dusting, please do not cut anything more than the VERY ends, please not even an inch!'

Hopefully your stylist will get it right this time. And if she again screws it up, NO TIP. Maybe she'll get the hint this time.

@PINKdogWOOD 🤞

Shanus · ‎05-17-2010

@JeanLouiseFinch wrote:
@Shanus Maybe you were kidding, but saying something like "take a dusting off the ends" is vague so there could be a misunderstanding between you and your stylist. I don't think it's the price being charged as much as it is a communication issue. Make sure she understands you. Before she gets the shears in her hand, the best thing you can do is to specify how much you want taken off - 1/4", 1/2", or whatever, and tell her you're trying to grow out your layers. Actually point on your head where you want the length to fall and so forth. The other thing is to bring a picture with you, of what you're trying to acheive, either by today's cut or what you're trying to grow your hair into. Keep in mind, though, that those pictures of celebrities and such may not be suitable for your hair due to your own amount of hair, texture, cowlicks, etc.

@JeanLouiseFinch I completely understand your points. With curly hair, taking off 1/8” when wet = 1/2” when dry. I take pics of my own hair last time it was this length about 3 yrs. ago...that should be sufficient, no? Many photos of movie stars and models are either photo shopped or they have extensions for length/fullness.

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

@Shanus, goodl luck. I would have her position the chair you are sitting in where you can see the mirror. The worst of my hair cut fatalities have been when I was turned away from the mirror.

It really shouldn't be this difficult to get a good hair cut/trim or whatever we want.

Abrowneyegirl · ‎03-15-2010

Ugh! I have been through this and I have found that bringing a photo of the hair style that is your GOAL of growing out your hair helps.

Then you can say, "Can you shape my hair toward this goal"

If not you are going to end up in the wrong direction with every cut.

To put it another way it is like getting into a taxi and telling the driver to drive a "little bit" then getting upset that you are on the wrong side of town. It is MUCH more clear to say "I need to buy milk at the market take me toward the store."

QVCkitty1 · ‎05-23-2015

I'm lucky, even though I go to the salon every 4 weeks, my stylist and I have a discussion before she gets started. Sometimes I only want my bangs trimmed, and that is all she does. Be firm, it's your hair !

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