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Re: Ever Had Someone ""Out to Get You""?

On 1/24/2014 wilma said:

Yes - twice. I refused to be chased away by either of these bullies. In the end both of them left, and I am still standing!

Yep. Wherever I work I always stay there a long time, and if there is someone obstructive or destructive, I just wait around until their own behavior gets them fired.

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On 1/23/2014 beautyandabag4me said:

So not sure if this qualifies for "out to get you" but there is a woman at my work who literally had people quitting their jobs and I was the third one in replacing so many others and here's what nailed it now for me 15 years later....

I OVER-WORKED myself initially demonstrating that I could not only do the job, but go above and beyond without asking. I kept EVERY email from her and still do to quickly refer to so I can gently guide her into how I am ultimately right and she is wrong about certain matters....while offering up the occassional complement, etc.

So here we are years later....I'm the only person she has ever complemented. It was an exhausting process...but well worth it for the otherwise GREAT job!!

In life you get to choose your spouse, and teach your kids....if you are waiting for a job that provides people that fit your needs.....you may be expecting too much. This is why I try to tell parents not to shield their kids too much from jerks in the world....but teach them how to best deal with them! They are everywhere....

So true!

I remind my kids often that high school doesn't end in 12th grade!!! {#emotions_dlg.lol}

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On 1/24/2014 chucky said:
On 1/23/2014 winamac1 said:
On 1/22/2014 twopeas said:

Yes, I have. A co-worker. I finally followed this simple rule: "Hold your friends close and your enemies closer". She is now my best friend. We are both retired.

Good for you two peas. I haven't had it until recently--also a coworker--fellow sales rep on my team. She's delusional, I don't trust her, and she's always out to get me trying to manipulate things. It's tiring.

I don't know if I follow that simple rule though…When someone is so borderline, I don't think trying to "hold her closer" would work. I'm glad it worked out for you. lol

Hey, WIN!!!! She is sooooo jealous of you and your fabulous style!

{#emotions_dlg.laugh}Wink LOL Hi Chucky. YOu are so sweet. That, of course, is what all my friends say…but they are my friends!{#emotions_dlg.laugh}Wink

How are you? I hope you are doing great!

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On 1/24/2014 Vamp said:

No...I avoid drama. I haven't always had the easiest co-workers, but I've always found a way to get along with them.

I do too Vamp. I have worked with so many people in my sales division and never had this issue. It's really bizarre. This woman is just a different story, and she has too many personal problems. {#emotions_dlg.scared}

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I ignored the bullies when I was a kid- and I tend to ignore the troublemakers as an adult. They're just trying to push your buttons- like I said, I believe in karma. It all comes back to them eventually!

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I thought CYA was short for see ya....but I love the intended meaning too
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I have 3 tid bits of advice:

1) have witnesses

2) have records

3) have patience

I used to work with someone who didn't like me. I was her supervisor and she did everything she could to sabotage me, to make me look bad. the problem was that she was smart, sneaky and manipulative. it took me 2 years ( I was patient) and some backup from HR, but because I had witnesses and records her nasty attitude and lies finally were her undoing. the day she was escorted out of the building by security was one of the happiest moments of my career.

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Do crazy, bullying parents count? We have 1 dad who has bullied teachers up each grade; now it's my turn...NOT! I let this micro-managing megalomaniac know he would not be sending me any more of his e-mail missives and that his questions could be answered by either his unmotivated son and/or reading the policies on my teacher website about homework and classroom behavior. I did 'cc' my principal, who agrees he's a bully, and he was permitted this behavior by previous administration. I've got 2, maybe 3 years left and I'm refuse to take his nonsense. I meet w/him Monday afternoon w/my principal and I'm going in blazing. t Thanks for letting me vent, ladies!

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On 1/22/2014 Deeby said:

Has anyone ever had someone out to get you, make you miserable, get you fired for no reason, that kind of thing?

I had something work related blow- up over nothing, same culprit as usual, and need some advice.

YES! There's a woman I work with who I can't stand. I just can't stand her! And every time she pulls the rug from under me our supervisor defends her. Honestly, I LOVE my work, but I can't stand some of the women I work with.

Here's another example of the kind of 8*t(hes I work with. Since I only work part-time, most of my correspondence/communication regarding work is done via email. I wake up very early every day, so many of my emails are sent when I'm drinking my morning tea and reading emails & the news, etc.. One of my idiot coworkers recently made a comment about the "time" an email was sent (7:15 AM). I hit reply and typed, "I get up early Smiley Embarassed)" (w/ smiley face). SHE responds back -- "how unfortunate".

"The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become."