Destination Weddings- new level of crass - Page 9

NC Bandwagon · ‎05-03-2014

On 7/13/2014 happy housewife said:
Honestly if I were getting married in today's world - the expense of everything plus the extreme high expectations weddings guests seem to have - I would elope. We had a tiny wedding because we chose to spend our savings on a house instead. And we actually did get some flack for not having a huge affair. Actually, about 2 years ago I ran into someone I haven't seen for many years and I said - What a shame we never seem to get together and she answered that since she wasn't invited to my wedding she did not consider me a real friend anymore. Sheesh - my wedding was 31 years ago! And we only had immediate family - including the priest and us the wedding party was for only 14 people. I just don't need or want anyone that shallow in my life.

That was rather cruel of your former friend to say that.

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NC Bandwagon · ‎05-03-2014

On 7/13/2014 terrier3 said:
My neighbor owns an upscale florist shop.

She says that she gets many requests for flowers that end up costing $50,000 OR MORE.

She had two brides this weekend who wanted peonies in their bouquets. Peonies are out of season. She had to get them from Quebec. One bride said they were TOO pink, she wanted a paler pink. In order to accommodate her, the second shipment cost $500 wholesale - JUST FOR THE PEONIES for one bouquet.

Such a high amount?.....FOR FLOWERS?! FOR ONE BOUQUET?!?!?!?!?! ${#emotions_dlg.blink}$ Not even rare flowers. Just peonies.......for one bouquet....

This may sound a bit cheap, but a bouquet of faux flowers would've been better if real flowers cost so much.

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terrier3 · ‎03-10-2010

On 7/13/2014 NC Bandwagon said:
On 7/13/2014 terrier3 said:
My neighbor owns an upscale florist shop.

She says that she gets many requests for flowers that end up costing $50,000 OR MORE.

She had two brides this weekend who wanted peonies in their bouquets. Peonies are out of season. She had to get them from Quebec. One bride said they were TOO pink, she wanted a paler pink. In order to accommodate her, the second shipment cost $500 wholesale - JUST FOR THE PEONIES for one bouquet.

Such a high amount?.....FOR FLOWERS?! FOR ONE BOUQUET?!?!?!?!?! ${#emotions_dlg.blink}$ Not even rare flowers. Just peonies.......for one bouquet....

This may sound a bit cheap, but a bouquet of faux flowers would've been better if real flowers cost so much.

My neighbor said she suggested they use silk peonies...no go for either bride.

milly1 · ‎03-09-2010

My daughter did have a destination wedding in Kauai. It was a package deal and she only wanted close family and a few friends. She had attended a number of her friends weddings that turned into horrible fights within the family. We wanted to have a reception at home for family and friends and she refused. She told us who she wanted to share in her wedding would be in Kauai. And our daughter is a real social person but we listened to her wishes. I don't understand the logic behind the wedding cost this much and we need to break even in gifts. IMHO it's not a way to start married life. A wedding should be a celebration of the couple's commitment to each other. It doesn't have to be fancy, or expensive, or certainly measured by a balance sheet. No wonder these same kids end up with huge debt down the road.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

Well, on the other hand, if you want to have a very special and memorable affair, have it at the Ritz Carlton on Jupiter ..... this way, you're spending all the money on YOU and not umpteen guests at $200 a head! ${#emotions_dlg.laugh}$

LuluOnBeauty · ‎12-03-2011

I send a gift as a gift, as a way to celebrate a new marriage. It does not matter to me if they expect me to attend or not, in my backyard or across the sea. It is a gift.

Two brides does not make a trend. Most of the destination wedding I've been aware of have then, a few months later, had a more casual reception back home so friends and family who could not celebrate at the destination could still join in the happy event.

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Starpolisher · ‎03-10-2010

On 7/13/2014 LuluCCS said:
I send a gift as a gift, as a way to celebrate a new marriage. It does not matter to me if they expect me to attend or not, in my backyard or across the sea. It is a gift.

Two brides does not make a trend. Most of the destination wedding I've been aware of have then, a few months later, had a more casual reception back home so friends and family who could not celebrate at the destination could still join in the happy event.

I love what you said LuLuCCS! This is also how and why I give a gift!

Gift:

something given voluntarily without payment in return, as to show favor toward someone, honor an occasion, or make a gesture of assistance; present.

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I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

On 7/12/2014 chrystaltree said:
It's not a common practice but some classless, tacky couples are doing. Sometimes out of ignorance.

Destination weddings are a common practice, we were invited to and attended a wedding 4 hour drive, not exactly the same but also not at the church around the corner, away, which involved a two night stay at a hotel at our cost and a 4 hour drive. It was our choice to go, we did not feel at all imposed upon going to this wedding.

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.

pinkskates4 · ‎03-10-2010

I just think it is sad - on both sides - to evaluate the cost (what am I getting out of this) before deciding to invite someone or to go to the wedding.

Brides worried they won't recoup the $150 per person meal cost (plus the per person divided cost of the photographer, wedding planner, invitations, etc. etc. etc.). Guests worried that it's a "gift grab" and not "worth" it to them to go.

And everyone agonizing over how "rude" it is to expect them to finance something they don't want to do for people they apparently don't like very much in the first place.

SeasonedCitizen · ‎10-09-2011

A young woman and I were discussing the destination wedding (which I had not heard about all of the details) and she wasn't the least bit surprised. Said it's quite common and was telling me about one that the registry was only items for the couple on the honeymoon, I,e, massages for the couple, dinners, etc. Hope I don't receive any more wedding invites, my social security check can't stand the shock).

Altho I am invited to many, as is the whole church, with no registry and nothing expected but my attendance. Usually a reception in the church and very casual and very well attended.