Beauty

[just bee]

On 11/9/2014 aprilskies said:You are right, Just Bee, there will always be temptation. I am just surprised the feeling came back stronger than it has in a long time. But, yes, hmmm, I am feeling overwhelmed, stressed, etc and a little bored with things. I am looking at eyeshadow kits and I havent really worn mu in like 2 years. That is just insane. My bigger danger is clothes. I just love new clothes and I havent bought much this year so I have to keep mindful. After donating so much of it, I dont want to find myself with stuffed closets again. It has been quite refreshing to open my closet and breathe.

I took a look at the alegria. I am looking for a comfortable pair but the ones I looked at were out of my size. I figured they would be my comfortable weekend or running around shoes. I dont always like to wear sneakers but I dont have anything really comfortable for a lot of walking. I really liked the black clogs and some other ones. How do they run size wise? I use to be an 8.5 but it seems everything I pick up these days is a 9 but they dont always fit right.

Stay mindful, ladies. It is going to be a long November and December, at least for me.

Aye, there's the rub. I like Alegrias and I find them incredibly comfortable. The problem? There are several different styles and each one fits a little differently. My frustration with the company is the inconsistency with their sizes. I have several pairs and I've bought size 39 and 40. Depending on the style or even the shoe store, this can be 8.5, 9, or 9.5. I'm always hesitant to order because I don't know anymore how the shoes will fit. I always tell people to try them on in a brick and mortar store, then order them online when you see the closeouts. But now the stores are just as competitive with their sale prices, so it might just be better to find them where you live.

I'm eyeing the Pescas. I have one pair and they're extremely comfortable. Do I need new shoes? No. Absolutely not. The pair I own is a size 40; I tried them on the other day and they feel big. Would I order the 39? Be warned. Just sayin'.

[just bee]

On 11/9/2014 Kay SD said:

justbee, you hit the nail on the head in your recent post. When you boil it down to its essence, want to buy something because we think we will feel better by having it. And, really, that's the same reason we do everything, isn't it? Even when we do something for someone else, we have the idea we will feel better in the doing of it.

So what it comes to is that maybe we can pick things--with more awareness--that have better side effects. Like a walk may have better side effects than buying another fragrance of shower gel. Or a box of chocolates might have better side effects than a new sweater! Who knows--everyone's details are different.

Or, we could go even deeper and just feel better...and then do whatever occurs to us, because at that point, we already have what we want! Don't know if I'm making sense to anyone else. And I know it's easy to say "just feel better," but not always so easy to do it. Maybe it's a habit, always paying attention to what feels better. Seems to me I could avoid a lot of confusion if I had that habit.

Of course, if I don't believe I can feel better, I guess some diamonds would be a nice consolation prize!

Anyway, cheers to all of you on this board, and thanks for putting up with my occasional philosophizing. We are heading straight into the season when we can dream up some pretty good excuses for buying things! I've taken to thinking about not cluttering up the closets and cupboards of the people I give gifts to!

It's a form of self-medication. Maybe if we start associating a new outfit with a bag of meth we might slow down on the shopping. It's still an addiction, right?

On some level I think I need those shoes. How could I possibly need a pair of shoes when I have pairs I've never even worn? I will die with new shoes in my closet. What's the point of having them if they aren't used?

It's a bit sick, isn't it?

[Beauty$Junkie]

Happy Monday, Ladies. I hope you all are not tempted by the tsv. I don't know why, but I have not the slightest interest. It has always been so hard for me to pass up a bargain. I have cleaned out some more stuff around here, prompted by the call from the Kidney Foundation. I hope they remember me, as it is looking like I might have been evicted. I don't want to bring it back in, for sure. Just Bee, you always nail it, this is an addiction. One day at a time. We will stay strong!

[SpaGal]

Hi all, haven't posted in quite some time but still read weekly and enjoy everyone's progress. As for the Tarte TSV (I <3 the brand), their parent company as they were sold still tests on animals (and not just to be in China...they just do ) so it's not at all tempting to me anymore.

I actually had to think long and hard to see if there was anything I could really use for my gifts this year--I needed some new sunglasses that fit my head (I have a really small head--my hips not so much!!!) and some rain boots because of all the festivals I will be working (standing in wet grass for hours) so that is what I'll get.

Maybe this will help some of you keep the rush rush buying frenzy down a bit: Last December, my father was in the hospital (the whole month) and had surgery to attach a lung that kept deflating to his chest wall on Dec 23rd. I don't say this to be sad as he's here and it's working fine--just that this Christmas he will remember it's Christmas, and be home with my mom and my DH and I. No gift wrapped under the tree however prettily will be any better than that! Maybe that's why I can overlook all the hubbub this year.

[just bee]

On 11/10/2014 SpaGal said:

Maybe this will help some of you keep the rush rush buying frenzy down a bit: Last December, my father was in the hospital (the whole month) and had surgery to attach a lung that kept deflating to his chest wall on Dec 23rd. I don't say this to be sad as he's here and it's working fine--just that this Christmas he will remember it's Christmas, and be home with my mom and my DH and I. No gift wrapped under the tree however prettily will be any better than that! Maybe that's why I can overlook all the hubbub this year.

That's what Christmas should be. Why do we take such a lovely season and make it so miserable?

[aprilskies]

On 11/15/2014 just bee said:

On 11/10/2014 SpaGal said:

Maybe this will help some of you keep the rush rush buying frenzy down a bit: Last December, my father was in the hospital (the whole month) and had surgery to attach a lung that kept deflating to his chest wall on Dec 23rd. I don't say this to be sad as he's here and it's working fine--just that this Christmas he will remember it's Christmas, and be home with my mom and my DH and I. No gift wrapped under the tree however prettily will be any better than that! Maybe that's why I can overlook all the hubbub this year.

That's what Christmas should be. Why do we take such a lovely season and make it so miserable?

I agree. My family decided a few years back to stop with all of the gifts. It is not like everyone doesnt get what they what or need all year long. We only shop for the kids in the family. Last year as I was just walking around and picking up some stuff, I noticed people with tons of stuff in their hands, socks, pajamas, novelty items that they put out this time of year, etc. I got so overwhelmed just looking at them and was so relieved I didnt have to go through that. I am not judging that at all, been there done that and remember the days, but I was so happy not to wander around for hours wondering what to get people. The holidays are so much more peaceful and you can start to really appreciate what it is suppose to be about. I think we lost that with all the commercialism.

But, having said that, I am starting to get caught in the vortex again and need to stop. I already placed several orders for things. It is definitely emotional buying and I need to step back. It is getting the best of me. Once my items come in, I will see what I will keep or take back. Clothing I have no problem returning. My control over buying was pretty good this year, I dont want to lose that.

And what is it about lotions and potions that pulls you in? My products are quickly starting to multiple. The funny part is I really am a low maintenance kind of girl. All I can do is keep trying.

[kns110]

Hi! Well, this month has been interesting to say the least. My husband lost his job at the very end of October, so I am completely on a no spending train right now. I kept saying I was going to try not to spent anything, but wasn't expecting this. Luckily, he was given a stipend and has several interviews next week. While going though this, I have actually been using up my stash. I decided to start with travel sized items first since it seems like an accomplishment to empty a container. I will actually use up a complete cream blush this week! So although things could be better with our income, I am actually learning what I truly need and what I don't need at all.

[kathie66]

On 11/16/2014 kns110 said: Hi! Well, this month has been interesting to say the least. My husband lost his job at the very end of October, so I am completely on a no spending train right now. I kept saying I was going to try not to spent anything, but wasn't expecting this. Luckily, he was given a stipend and has several interviews next week. While going though this, I have actually been using up my stash. I decided to start with travel sized items first since it seems like an accomplishment to empty a container. I will actually use up a complete cream blush this week! So although things could be better with our income, I am actually learning what I truly need and what I don't need at all.

Sorry to hear about your husbands job loss. I hope things turn around for you real soon.

[just bee]

On 11/16/2014 kns110 said: Hi! Well, this month has been interesting to say the least. My husband lost his job at the very end of October, so I am completely on a no spending train right now. I kept saying I was going to try not to spent anything, but wasn't expecting this. Luckily, he was given a stipend and has several interviews next week. While going though this, I have actually been using up my stash. I decided to start with travel sized items first since it seems like an accomplishment to empty a container. I will actually use up a complete cream blush this week! So although things could be better with our income, I am actually learning what I truly need and what I don't need at all.

I know that train well! It really is interesting to discover that we don't need most of what we've collected. Now's a good time to use it up.

Here's to positive changes in 2015!

[aprilskies]

On 11/18/2014 just bee said:

On 11/16/2014 kns110 said: Hi! Well, this month has been interesting to say the least. My husband lost his job at the very end of October, so I am completely on a no spending train right now. I kept saying I was going to try not to spent anything, but wasn't expecting this. Luckily, he was given a stipend and has several interviews next week. While going though this, I have actually been using up my stash. I decided to start with travel sized items first since it seems like an accomplishment to empty a container. I will actually use up a complete cream blush this week! So although things could be better with our income, I am actually learning what I truly need and what I don't need at all.

I know that train well! It really is interesting to discover that we don't need most of what we've collected. Now's a good time to use it up.

Here's to positive changes in 2015!

Sorry to hear that kns110, I hope things turn around quick for you and your family. I do agree with Just Bee. It is times like these that make us realize what we really need and what is important. I think about this myself sometimes, and it is just one of the reasons, among many, I am trying to be mindful of my spending.