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@sarahpanda  I'm so very sorry to read your post.  I've been where you are and it does feel like your whole world as you know it has spun out of control. Take care of yourself and never give up hope that your husband will be ok.  I hope you have family or friends nearby you can lean on if you need to.  Putting you and your husband in my prayers.

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@sarahpanda wrote:

We found out yesterday that my DH's cancer has spread - not at all what we were expecting to hear.  As I sit here, piling up tear drenched, snotty tissues beside my laptop,  life feels like  being in a car, coming to a screeching stop and having your head bashed into the windshield. Looking around, everything seems changed to me now...things that were the norm in my life aren't anymore, things that seemed important to me aren't anymore. I am bombarded with thoughts of things that need to be 'taken care of' that I never had to do overwhelming.



I am so very sorry to hear this.


Many of us have been where you are.  Quite honestly, there really are no words that will ease your pain, confusion, and fear right now.  And you are so right that in the blink of an eye everything can change.  

Never give up hope.  I do hope you have close family and/or friends with you now.  And spend as much time with your husband as possible.


You are always welcome here.


My thoughts and prayers are with you, your husband and family.



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I'm so sorry @sarahpanda   I've been there and remember feeling like I was being swallowed up by a tidal wave.

The eyes of the future are looking back at us and they are praying for us to see beyond our own time
Terry Tempest Williams
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@geezerette ...Yes, most all of my family live close, no more than 20 miles away and DD lives 8....I can't imagine going through this without them....and I also have my 'church family'...that helps a lot too .  Thank you all for your kind concern, it's priceless.

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Dear sarahpanda:   I read your post and it took me back to when I was in your shoes heartbroken and in disbelief, I had lost the love of my life. You came to the right place, the ladies on here have all been where you are and they are great at listening and understanding what you are going through. This for me was the hardest thing I had ever been through in my life. We married young and when he suddenly passed after 58 years of marriage I was lost. I am lucky I have family and they have been a great help to me.  It's overwhelming because suddenly you have to do all the things he did that you took for granted. Come here often and just talk about whatever is bothering you, sometimes we can't burden our family and this is a safe place to come. No judgement just new friends who want to help. I don't know what I would have done without the support I got here. I thank them every day in my heart. Praying that God gives you comfort and strength in days to come.