@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
@Trinity11 wrote:
@Lindsays Grandma wrote:
@magicmoodz wrote:
@CouponQueen wrote:
Geesh Lousie folks...do you like kicking puppies too when they are down? She is looking for a kind word, comfort of a shoulder..
You know the situation...we all read it..so why are some digging in that knife and twisting it as you go? For the life of me..I cannot understand mean...beyond MEAN..does it hurt anybody to say something KIND..?? If you can't why not pass the thread by! She isn't looking to have the knife that is already in dug deeper and twisted.
We know from her previous post she did not want to move..her daughter was/is probaby making a bad move..but they are the support system for each other. It is her daughter and young granddaughter...so leave her behind..? They all live on a limited resources and probablay combined live a fairly decent lifestyle..
No, she did not want to move, Yes, her daughter made the decision so what is she to do..go off in assisted living (if she could afford it..) and worry about them? No, of course not, she went along with it for her sake and theirs. Not everybody is pizz perfect in life...I wish people would comment on topic and not on poster..Three people could write the same thing..three different responses based on WHO the author is..
LindseyGrandma I can certainly understand your hurt feelings, and do people READ before adding hurtful comments. They were not looking to freeload all three of them for uncertain period of time...to spare the OP the long drive, they thought the sister would of offered her a place til her daughter arrived.
I get your disappointment...I have come to find out..within my own family not everybody thinks or does as I would do..and still learn when a situation comes up still.. a lesson we all have to learn... It is a reflection on her..not you.
Also, I hope the move works out for you all...especially the young grandaughter who was uprooted from everything..I would of went too..no way would of let them move on their own..and this is her FAMILY...family that has been together for years...right or wrong ..this is their little network of family that works for them....
I hope you find a cute place, and get used to the area/weather. Cost of living is supposed to be fairly reasonable there and hopefully your daughter can find a decent job! Either way "xxxx" your sister...and do not let it get you down...consider this a adventure with your grandaughter and keep us posted...IGNORE the debbie downers...what can I say...their cannot find a box of Cheerios that somebody hasn't soiled..that is their problem.. ...so if we all had to eat soiled cheerios on a daily basis..we would act like that too!! Just think of that when you see such mean comments..There is no reason or room for MEAN..
Sometimes if you don't have anything nice to say...why say anything at all...? just because you can doesn't mean you should..lastly every day in my line of work..I often think "FOR THE GRACE OF GOD GO I..." it could be any one of us...at any given time..
Are you done with your rant? You had me feeling bad until I read your words highlighted above. Class act.
magicmoodz...I haven't been on the forum for a few days, just saw your post 12/14. I can't thank you enough for your understanding and kind words. I decided not to look at the thread again but when I signed in I came upon your post. I will ignore the hurtful ones because I am tired of explaining myself over and over. I taught my children and grandchildren the exact words you wrote, "If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all." I was delighted when I saw that you had posted that. When anyone comes on the forum either asking for advice, or just letting out hurt feelings, or need a way to do something they should not be insulted, treated with venom, or put down and yet that is what happens here all too often, Again I thank you for your kindness and wish you and yours a Merry Christmas and a New Year filled with Good Health and Happiness.
90% of the responses to your question were kind but questioned whether this was a move that would be beneficial for you. You chose to focus on the negative responses rather than the out-pouring of genuine concern. I guess I don't get it....
@Trinity11
I get it.
There are people in this world who always see themselves as the "victim", and only want sympathy 100% of the time.
They are never responsible for whatever happens to them. Personal responsibility is a foreign concept to them. They are always "helpless" to whatever befalls them. Anything less than 100% pure sympathy for them, they consider to be "mean".
And people "pick on" them and single them out. They are a legend in their own mind, when in reality people respond to them *based on what they say*, i.e. the information they provide, the manner in which they express themselves (how they present/phrase situations), and whether they can accept commentary other than 100% unconditional support.
For me as a reader, acceptance of personal responsibility is key. That does not mean the person must say "yes, it's all my fault!" It does mean that the person expresses that they consider what others have to say, that they may have a point, never looked at it that way, yes I suppose I may be to blame in that (aspect), etc, or gives further explanation if appropriate and relevant.
There is another thread which has been to a point concurrent with this one, with a somewhat different response. The OP has been consistent in the info she has given, doesn't back-track or change her story. She may explain more fully or re-explain to answer questions. She doesn't seem threatened by questions or be upset by them for the most part. Some people may misunderstand or question her narrative but she deals with that without becoming overtly hostile.
Due to all the above, I find that poster believable and sympathetic, regardless of my opinion about her issues. I don't believe that with that poster, unlike some others, it's All About teh Drama and agreeing with/validating them.
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