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[rockygems123]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

I don't care to hear anyone speaking their truth.

Setting boundaries is just controling in disguise. 

Is cutting in line, putting oneself first? 

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@occasionalrain 

Very sad.

[Shanus]

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@JoyFilled Warrior wrote:

I  think I need a large poster size of this List above, & check with it, read it often.

I wonder how I'd do that?  Maybe Etsy?

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@JoyFilled Warrior   Hi. I needed to print something said here and if you tap on the "dots" in the upper right hand corner where you can also edit your reply, it gives you the option to print. Then you can take it to Staples or a copy center to have it enlarged...even laminated.

[AngelPuppy1]

That list is great.  However, I am "guilty" of feeling "guilty" of a ton of those things!  Oh, my goodness!  

[Group 5 minus 1]

@JoyFilled Warrior Love that. Thanks! I was raised to feel guilty about most of those things. As an adult I tried to help Mom not to fill guilty about so much.

[RescueLover]

I need to add one to your thoughtful list …



A wise elderly friend of mine told me…

Honey, Never feel guilty of buying the things you want because

That’s what you work hard for “. 💕

[Allthingsgirly67]

Some of you here are taking some of these out of context. Of course at times for example you have to put someone else first, like your children. But for many of us who relate to what was written can get the broader meaning. As women we generally tend to be somewhat passive in regards to our feelings. The boundaries one is not about “control”. For example, my ex- MIL, would try on my clothes when I was working and tell me about it. She has also gone through my drawers ( and DD believes hers as well). In addition she was a hoarder and many other things she did. She had absolutely no boundaries.

[lgfan]

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@Allthingsgirly67 wrote:
Some of you here are taking some of these out of context. Of course at times for example you have to put someone else first, like your children. But for many of us who relate to what was written can get the broader meaning. As women we generally tend to be somewhat passive in regards to our feelings. The boundaries one is not about “control”. For example, my ex- MIL, would try on my clothes when I was working and tell me about it. She has also gone through my drawers ( and DD believes hers as well). In addition she was a hoarder and many other things she did. She had absolutely no boundaries.

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What I get from the put yourself first statement is that if you are not well you cannot take care of anyone else.  You must be healthy to take care of others so put yourself first.

[JeanLouiseFinch]

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@JoyFilled Warrior wrote:

                

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"Speaking Your Truth" is not the same as BEING TRUTHFUL.  People can twist words and situations to suit themselves or their purpose.  Being truthful acknowledges the veracity of a situation or event without regard to an individual's preference, or desired reaction or result.

I also disagree with the last one.  For me, it's always God first, followed by husband, family, then me.

[qualitygal]

Where did you find this on line, so you could post it?  Maybe it'll help the lady who wants a larger copy of it.

[occasionalrain]

The context is clear, never ever feel guilty? People who always put themselves first are inconsiderate, unkind, selfish, and are lacking in manners.