Re: " Going to the Dr. Or Not ?

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@BeccaLou wrote:
My husband is making crazy remarks to talk me out of seeing a specialist that my Doctor is advising me to see. He is a Religious nut at times, and Now He is trying to convince me that I could heal my own self If I would really believe that I could .Every day it has been another crazy remark. I don't know what to do, but my problem may be really very serious. And I am so scard, but he seems like , Don't talk about because he can't handle it. That seems some what fair, but I am going nuts from not knowing what the specialist will say. My Doctor has me very frightened and I have make an appointment soon or it could become severe health issues.Has anyone gone thru this with a person acting like this.?

@BeccaLou

Huh? Why are you choosing to live like this?

First, see the Specialist and any other medical professionals necessary to take care of your health.

Secondly, please use the common sense God gave you and get a divorce. This might not be the classic description of abuse, but advising you to not get medical care is a major red flag. At the very least, please start standing up for yourself. JMO

elated · ‎06-09-2010

I am not sure what is going on with your health and marriage but it appears to be stressful. I am glad you saw a specialist and hope everything works in your favor. I think your marriage cou!d be the cause of some of your illness. You are constantly walking on eggshells. I would take care of myself and consider getting counse!ing for yourself. It seems you lack self esteem and have been beaten down. Having to live like you do would make me run for the door and never look back. Life is short and to be honest you need to get some backbone.

phoenixbrd · ‎03-27-2010

This whole post is reflective of an abusive relationship. @BeccaLou it could be as critical for you to see a counselor and/or seek support as it is to see a specialist. It is difficult to have clarity in such a stressful relationship. I'm sorry that you are having such a difficult time. Unfortunately, as loving and supportive as this board can be...it can not offer the kind of support that you are indicating that you might require. If you can find some quiet time for self-reflection, even just taking a quiet walk maybe you can begin to sort out what is the best for your health/spirit/future. Sometimes, it is difficult to move beyond an abusive relationship without support. Sending you best wishes for joy, peace, and the courage to carry through with what is best for you.

manhattan1950 · ‎10-27-2018

@BeccaLou wrote:
The insurance policy coundn't happen unless I passed a physical that didnt know about. Not hardly, and that is the least of my worries. He's not a complete Monster. So 86 that thought !!

Maybe not, but he sounds like a total control freak. No way would I tolerate his ridiculous behavior.

BeccaLou · ‎02-09-2016

Easier said than done.

Pruett · ‎10-30-2013

@BeccaLou wrote:
I got an Appointment to the specialist and went Today. More to follow but he went and he's still acting of and on Okay. But Tonight we went on a special date like we did Years ago, and it was very nice.I think He is terrified as much as I am. Because one morning before I was in the hospital, I woke and I said I feel like I am dying, and he said don't say that I can't handle it !!

Wishing you you the best @BeccaLou. ❤️

Healing

Huge Hannah · ‎11-03-2018

@BeccaLou wrote:
That is easier said than done, if it turns out to be bad He will have take on helping me.But I do agree with You about his permission. One minute He seems attentive and the next He may look at me as a burden. I am so scard.

It sounds like he might be having some mental health issues of his own. Maybe it's time for him to get checked out.

BeccaLou · ‎02-09-2016

I so agree something is off the way he acts. I thinking Bi-POlar. It is in the back of my mind alot about him. I can't do anything and I am not in a position to leave or get a divorce. Been there once and I wouldn't have any Insurance or enough money to live on. And we've been together for 31years, that of finances I can't give up. If he ever gets violent I will do something. But I can handle my self better than you know. Not about to hand my things over to a nother women that's for sure.I just need to vent to someone, strangers are better.