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" Going to the Dr. Or Not ?

My husband is making crazy remarks to talk me out of seeing a specialist that my Doctor is advising me to see. He is a Religious nut at times, and Now He is trying to convince me that I could heal my own self If I would really  believe that I could .Every day it has been another crazy remark. I don't know what to do, but my problem may be really very serious. And I am so scard, but he seems like , Don't talk about because he can't handle it. That seems some what fair, but I am going nuts from not knowing what the specialist will say. My Doctor has me very frightened and I have make an appointment soon or it could become severe health issues.Has anyone gone thru this with a person acting like this.?

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Do you need his permission to see a doctor ?

 

Just go.

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See the specialist.  ASAP!  You need full information and to take care of yourself.  I hope it turns out to be nothing, but you won't know, and won't have peace of mind, until you check it out.  And, if it turns out to be something, you'll need to stick with the professionals to deal with it.  Good luck.

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@becca lou wrote:

My husband is making crazy remarks to talk me out of seeing a specialist that my Doctor is advising me to see. He is a Religious nut at times, and Now He is trying to convince me that I could heal my own self If I would really  believe that I could .Every day it has been another crazy remark. I don't know what to do, but my problem may be really very serious. And I am so scard, but he seems like , Don't talk about because he can't handle it. That seems some what fair, but I am going nuts from not knowing what the specialist will say. My Doctor has me very frightened and I have make an appointment soon or it could become severe health issues.Has anyone gone thru this with a person acting like this.?


This is strange.  This is not Q Talk,  but maybe if you post it in among friends, you may get better advice?  I would talk to his Dr. about how he is acting.

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@becca lou.  I would totally tune him out and do what you know must be done.  I would seriously question whether he has your best interests at heart.  Now make that appointment first thing tomorrow.

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That is easier said than done, if it turns out to be bad He will have take on helping me.But I do agree with You about his permission. One minute He seems attentive and the next He may look at me as a burden. I am so scard.

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@becca lou wrote:

My husband is making crazy remarks to talk me out of seeing a specialist that my Doctor is advising me to see. He is a Religious nut at times, and Now He is trying to convince me that I could heal my own self If I would really  believe that I could .Every day it has been another crazy remark. I don't know what to do, but my problem may be really very serious. And I am so scard, but he seems like , Don't talk about because he can't handle it. That seems some what fair, but I am going nuts from not knowing what the specialist will say. My Doctor has me very frightened and I have make an appointment soon or it could become severe health issues.Has anyone gone thru this with a person acting like this.?


 

No, I haven't gone thru anything with someone acting like this.  I have friends and family who offer advice (sometimes strongly), but there's no one in my life who would forbid me from doing what I thought best for myself, or who would have that power.

 

Your doctor is medically-trained, has advised you to see a specialist, and you are concerned enough about your health that you want to go. So do it!   If you don't go, you'll be worried about it, and stress can make nearly any symptom worse.  Make that appointment and take care of yourself.

 

Your husband has made his opinion known, but it's your body, your health, and your life.  Don't go against medical advice simply because your husband thinks he knows best.

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By all means take care of yourself and go see the specialist.   

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@becca lou wrote:

That is easier said than done, if it turns out to be bad He will have take on helping me.But I do agree with You about his permission. One minute He seems attentive and the next He may look at me as a burden. I am so scard.


I’m sorry for your fear, but you need to trust your instincts on this.  Go to the doctor. If you need help that your husband can’t provide, the medical staff will be there for you. Good luck. 

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@becca lou Just curious, but has he acted like this before?   If you go and it is nothing,  at least you will have peace of mind.