Among Friends

[tashy]

I buried my father on Wednesday and at the funeral,all I can think about is how his family act like they were so sad,but I moved him down here three and a half yrs ago to be closer to them,did they go visit him in the personal care home (NO). did they visit him when I moved him to nursing home (NO) did they even call (NO).There was only one niece who stuck by us through the tuff times,she was the only one I showed my appreciation for. I understand they have there own lives,but don't be phoney,they say yeah he has a big family here,ok where the hell were they,don't say you going to do something and don't. I am glad I took care of my dad,but I learn not to have expectations, when it come to other people. thanks for letting me vent a little 

[ValuSkr]

Did you move him down here to be closer to you?  Or were you far away, and his relatives were close?

[colliegirls]

I understand completely, my father's family was the same way at his funeral. Sc**w them!!!

[Kardi]

So sorry for your loss.  You should take comfort in knowing that you were there for your dad.  You can only do what you believe is right, and others will have to decide for themselves what is right for them.  Most families deal with the same issues when there is an elderly parent.  Try not to be too angry with them.  You are too good for it.  

[ladyroxanne]

@tashy

i'm so sorry to hear of your dad's passing.  my condolences. 

people are the way they are.  they simply think of themselves most of the time and really don't mean any harm.  it's just the way it is.  it happens to all of us. 

[Newgate]

So sorry about your dad!  You can feel good about taking care of him!  When it comes to freinds and relatives..our friends we can choose our families we are stuck with and sometimes they will disapoint us!  Take care!

[tashy]

I should say,I'm not angry,and I would do it over again. I am the type of person,do the best I can an keep it moving, sc@w them,then they do that,you have a lot of cousins, we should keep in touch (not). I know my mother side of the family better than my father,we were raised in the north,now I'm in the south,close to where my father was raised,don't really know but a hand full of people

[Bird mama]

@tashy

Unfortunately it's been my experience that funerals bring out the hypocrisy, BS and drama in people.

It's also been my experience that folks like to cut up at weddings.

[tashy]

Valuskr,it is a long story,if intrested,read my past post from 3yrs ago,it will explain it all,that's for the reply

[AnikaBrodie]

@tashy

I'm sorry for your loss.  Thank you for taking care of your dad.  In retrospect you will be glad you did.  As for the others, they will have to answer for themselves.  Family do not always put other family first.  I know this from my own personal experiences.