if I receive anything for Valentine's Day --

GoneButNotForgotten · ‎03-29-2020

-- even a phone call -- from my son, I think I'd faint from surprise. Lately (in the last year or two), he has taken to ignoring me. I'd like to know why but I don't know what to expect if I ask and I don't want a big explosion so for now I'll let sleeping dogs lie (I'm a big believer in that).

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@GoneButNotForgotten wrote:
-- even a phone call -- from my son, I think I'd faint from surprise. Lately (in the last year or two), he has taken to ignoring me. I'd like to know why but I don't know what to expect if I ask and I don't want a big explosion so for now I'll let sleeping dogs lie (I'm a big believer in that).

@GoneButNotForgotten Why not call and say "I love you?" Or text. You might feel better, and you probably won't feel any worse but it is a positive step. You can say that I hope and let the dogs keep sleeping.

Sometimes that's the best we can do.

CoffeeNut · ‎03-15-2010

Just go with your gut instinct. No one on here can give you the correct answer because it sounds like it's complicated and much deeper issues exist.

LindaSal · ‎05-15-2014

My kids don't call me on Valentines day, they don't call on a lot of these types of "holidays". It doesn't bother me as long as I talk to them every once in awhile. I know they are busy and wrapped up in their own lives. I get it, I didn't call my mom all the time either. I take it as I brought them up well enough to stand on their own.........I love my kids and am happy when I see them and just get to chat with them in general.

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

@GoneButNotForgotten

Even if you don't receive that phone call, please be kind to yourself and pull up good memories of past Valentine's Days to made this a feel good day!

My 88 year old mother is in the last stage of dementia, and I have just returned home from a visit with her. Mom was glad to see me, seemed to know me today; the flowers and candy perked her up, but also confused her, as she doesn't connect to Valentine's Day. I shared a beautiful picture of her with the flowers, with my brothers, but have cried a river feeling those will likely be the last flowers I give to her.

I am trying so hard to do all I can for my Mom, as I never want to have one single regret of something I could've, should've, would've done for her once she's gone. Whether she knows me or not, my heart will be peaceful knowing I tried to do my best, and I honored her for all of her days on this earth.

yamma024 · ‎08-21-2017

I don't think Valentines Day is a day for Mom and a grown son. I talk to my sons all the time, but don't expect a Valentines Day call. If they do happen to call me today it will be just like any other day.

deeva · ‎03-09-2010

I've never expected my kids to call me on Valentines Day. IMO, it's just another day for retailers to get us to spend money.

1Snickers · ‎03-19-2016

My son and I exchanged texts with e valentines. I've already given him a bag of candy. I don't expect anything.
😍

1Snickers · ‎03-19-2016

@RedTop I'm glad you had the day with your mother regardless of her response. I'm sure she enjoyed your visit.
Years ago I purchased a small heart shaped dish for my mother and a pretty Valentine in January. She passed away shortly after. I placed the Valentine in her casket and set the little dish out yearly.
💌 💔

hckynutjohn · ‎06-15-2015

@GoneButNotForgotten wrote:
-- even a phone call -- from my son, I think I'd faint from surprise. Lately (in the last year or two), he has taken to ignoring me. I'd like to know why but I don't know what to expect if I ask and I don't want a big explosion so for now I'll let sleeping dogs lie (I'm a big believer in that).

@GoneButNotForgotten

Valentine's Day was not that important to my mother the short number of years she was with us. When we were grade school kids she made it a big day for us.

She died on Valentine's Day ❤ 54 years ago. What I wouldn't give to be able to call her today.

hckynut 🇺🇸