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151949 · ‎03-09-2010

It doesn't matter at all what our husbands do "in the romance department". It is very clear from your OP that this stuff is important to you, so you need to find someone who will make it important to him.

Don't look at other's relationships - they are seldom what they appear to be on the surface.A girl I once worked with used to get gifts and flowers etc all the time at work. Many of us were jealous -he was good looking, seemed sweet & had a great career. One day he shot her & their children then himself. He left a note saying how happy they were all going to be in heaven together.

IMW · ‎06-15-2014

My dh not much in " romance" department. Doesn't buy fancy gifts (but pays the bills without comment), does the wash, grocery shopping etc. Will go with me to jewelry store to pick out gift.

He doesn't say romantic words, but he's always there for me. Takes care of me when I'm sick, etc. Helped care for my parents- Always ready to love me, but not to talk to me,

its just his way. Sometimes I get so very frustrated with him (hardly danced with me and daughter at her wedding). He's a good man and we love each other. Married going on 41 years.

Melania · ‎06-12-2013

Too many people care about "things" instead of the quality of the person.

It is beyond shallow to make that the important things in a relationship.

It is how you treat each other each day that matters. Sadly women have such an unreal expectations.

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

As a male speaking only for myself. Romance can be defined/shown and demonstrated in many different ways. I am the same as I have always been during my 45+ year relationship with my wife. Were I to change? I think that might make her wonder, "hey, what's up with that"?

hckynut(john)

circles · ‎03-10-2010

@151949 wrote:
@circles wrote:
I was fortunate to have had an ex husband that was very romantic...he always did special cards...flowers...held car and doors...held my hand while we were out and about...etc etc..

Then the man i dated after him...was exactly the same..very attentive to me ..with special gifts flower on my pillow..cards...etc

I am sorry for those that have never experienced a loving partner..

He was sooooo loving but he is also your EX husband?

Yes, we broke up for other reasons....but we have remained friends...he still calls me and visits...helps me when i need drive to doctors...makes sure i have a good health plan each year...always checks to make sure i am okay....how is that for a loving man who i walked out on...

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

If he knows you would appreciate it, and if he knows it might even be hurting your feelings that he doesn't do it, I would seriously evaluate the relationship. Of course, there are other important qualities too look for in a boyfriend. It means something though that he is disregarding your feelings here, IMO. He may be the type who disreagrds your feelings in other areas as well.

Susan in California · ‎06-02-2014

My husband does give me cards and is very loving. But that is just his nature.

He had a wonderful mother and a loving relationship with her.

But I agree with other posters--

there are many ways to show love and affection. I especially agree with @cherry

don't compare with others.

I have a friend with four sons. She was married to a very handsome attorney who wanted a big family. Their relationship always "looked" so romantic.

Another friend was always jealous of this couple and compared her husband and ended up divorcing him.

The friend with the handsome, attorney husband later found out her husband had had multiple affairs, and he ended up walking out when her youngest son was about twelve. He married a woman who came into his office for a divorce!!!!

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

@pggoody, only you can answer your concern. You know what you need/want from a relationship and if that is not what you are getting I think you know what to do.

SunValley · ‎04-19-2010

My husband was very romantic with cards and little gifts. Could not live without me! Then he realized 2 years into our marriage that he was very attractive to women. After embarrassing me with work romances for the next few years, he finally ditched me and our two toddlers and ran off with the wife of a couple we socialized with. I will take character over romance.