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[SXMGirl]

@Mindy D  I think that you already know that you should not visit them.  If you want to have dinner with them, do it via zoom.  Your SIL should not be near that baby or anyone else.  While I have not heard of this disease until you posted and I looked it up, there is no way that I would want to be near anyone with this disease.  It is unfortunate, but I hope that your SIL has excellent medical care and that there is a cure.

[qvcfreak]

This would not even be a question for me. I would only be thinking of my husband making a 2.5 hour trip in such discomfort. 

[Mindy D]

@Trinity11 @Yes, but when he tried it, the dosage was different than what's used today. It's sonpmething to give me some hope. I've been talking to him about going to a headache specialist at U of Miami and possibly retrying the newer protocol. This is complicated by interactions with the meds he's already on. He sees a neurologist and a neurosurgeon every month. In order to try the verapamil with the specialist at the university, he would have to switch insurance plans. This doctor studied under Dr. Peter Goadsby, the leasing researcher in the field of cluster headache. 

Years ago, he did have to have the paramedics come to his work location when he was trying a medicine, Amerge, that is somewhat similar to verapamil. So this also has to be considered. 

Ive been trying to give him some hope that the newer regimen might work. 

[Tessa Mendoza]

Under the circumstances you described, there is no way I would even consider putting my husband or mysef in that position.  Not worth the stress I would be under the whole time and after returning home, hoping I didn't bring anything with me.

[bmorechick]

Well we aren't  visiting anyone again this year for any holidays and yep we are vaxxed to the max and still wear masks everywhere.  Where I work, Our clients with cdiff are typically on isolation so that would be a major NO  - even without the added concern of covid.  Yes, I miss my family and my hubs family, but no one is willing to cross the line because we all live in different cities so there's no regular contact like with my adult children and grands...so again it's just the 8 of us regulars at my house for holidays.

Cdiff is highly contagious and most people that have it get recurring infection so um...NO WAY IN THREE HE...!  And your husbands discomfort would be a major concern as well. When you feel that bad, home is where most people want to be. 

[Goodie2shoes]

I read some of the responses to your post and I have to agree that you probably should not go. There are several medical issues going on with your family and it's just not a good idea to take a chance. Hopefully next year will be much better for all of us

[Trinity11]

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@Mindy D wrote:

@Trinity11 @Yes, but when he tried it, the dosage was different than what's used today. It's sonpmething to give me some hope. I've been talking to him about going to a headache specialist at U of Miami and possibly retrying the newer protocol. This is complicated by interactions with the meds he's already on. He sees a neurologist and a neurosurgeon every month. In order to try the verapamil with the specialist at the university, he would have to switch insurance plans. This doctor studied under Dr. Peter Goadsby, the leasing researcher in the field of cluster headache. 

Years ago, he did have to have the paramedics come to his work location when he was trying a medicine, Amerge, that is somewhat similar to verapamil. So this also has to be considered. 

Ive been trying to give him some hope that the newer regimen might work. 

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@Mindy D , Amerge is a completely different class of drugs than Verapamil Er. Verapamil is a calcium channel blocker. Hopefully, it would be approved by insurance because it is a common medication used for hypertension. It also helps some individuals with migraine and cluster headaches. 

It must be so difficult for you seeing your husband suffering. Please take care of yourself and keep us posted on how it works out.💕

[homedecor1]

@Mindy D 

Obviously you know the best thing for you & your spouse but  "No" would be my answer.

As hard as it is, I have told my son who planned a family trip for Christmas week -- please don't come!  I have enough stress having a ill spouse without "worrying" about whatever they may bring.  (and I love them dearly esp my GD).

In addition, I never know how he will be feeling.  I can't imagine a 2 hour drive too.

Be honest with them right now your health (as caregiver I assume) and spouses has to be priority.  If not, you may not be around for next Thanksgiving.

My gf's went to dinner & Bingo tonight they couldn't understand my "reasoning" of not going .. last place I need to be is in crowded bingo hall😉.  

Prayers for you both🙏🏻

[Calgal2too]

That would be a hard no.  Why would you consider it, even for a single second?

[Mindy D]

@SXMGirl @I agree. When my SIL was released from the hospital no one told her how contagious the C diff is or that it was likely to reoccur! Staff was so lax about this.

Frankly, I'm shocked my niece didn't know much about this. She let them come over. Plus, my niece hates to use chlorine bleach because she has two cockatoos that become ill from inhalation of bleach fumes. You must use freshly mixed bleach to disinfect, so I don't know how she is doing this in her house. BIL and SIL are now disinfecting their home after finally learning what they need to do.