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[KingstonsMom]

No, don't do it. 

There's a reason that you have been estranged all these years and even her kids want nothing to do with her.

Follow their lead, they've lived with her and know her much better than you do, and if they've chosen to alienate themselves from their mother, there must be a very good reason.

I wouldn't risk my own family's harmony and happiness.

But that's just my opinion.

[hoosieroriginal]

Don't judge your sister just because her kids don't talk to her - you may not know the situation.  Kids aren't always sweet and loving. 

[Kachina624]

Call your county senior services office and get information on subsidized housing,  nursing homes,  meals on wheels,  medical services... anything she'd need and be ready if she asks to move in.   You can help her get around and use available services but I wouldn't allow a stranger to cause upheaval in my and my family's lives.   If she proves to be pleasant,  include her in family activities.   If she's not,  you're under no obligation. 

[mima]

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@hoosieroriginal wrote:

Don't judge your sister just because her kids don't talk to her - you may not know the situation.  Kids aren't always sweet and loving. 

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@hoosieroriginal  If it was one kid that did not speak to her I would agree with you.  But all three don't speak to her? There is a reason I'm sure.

[KingstonsMom]

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@hoosieroriginal wrote:

Don't judge your sister just because her kids don't talk to her - you may not know the situation.  Kids aren't always sweet and loving. 

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@hoosieroriginal

WIth all due respect, neither are all 'mothers'. I know.....I had one.

Have you ever seen the movie 'Mommy Dearest'?

[Mom2Dogs]

@sarahpanda...I also have a similar situation.... I do have contact with this sister but when she visited a year or so ago for 3 days, I thought I would lose my mind, so my answer would be no....like someone else posted, there are government program that could help her out.  Good luck.

[Catty2]

I would say no considering the background information in your message. 

[151949]

I took in one of my brothers once when he was in dire straits - he stole my checkbook and took all the money I had in the bank to pay our bills that month, then ran far and fast away. Thank goodness we were able to cover this from our savings but I learned a hard lesson about him. Also thank goodness he didn't find the passbook to the savings as well.

[StephaniM]

Yes, she's your sister.  I'd never turn any of mine away.

[cherry]

There are sisters, and then there are sisters. For people who have never had sisters, they have no idea the harm they can cause, or the damage they can do, on purpose