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Gave this a lot of thought. When I married Hubbs (at home in front of the big window) I had no doubts so I guess if it were he I would marry again.

[phoenixbrd]

@gidgetgh  I agree....we can never know how we will react until we are faced with the situation.  I am sorry for the loss of your husband.  You have done a lot of reflection that represents your kindness and consideration for others.  Your conclusion is well thought out and I wish you much happiness in your future.

[gidgetgh]

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@phoenixbrd wrote:

@gidgetgh  I agree....we can never know how we will react until we are faced with the situation.  I am sorry for the loss of your husband.  You have done a lot of reflection that represents your kindness and consideration for others.  Your conclusion is well thought out and I wish you much happiness in your future.

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@phoenixbrd - thank you very much. I am a work in progress, just as we all are.  My best to you too. 

[River Song]

My opinion is, never say never.

None of us know what we will do in a situation until it happens to us.

I am widowed twice, first in my 30's and again in my 60's.  Would I marry again?  No idea.  Maybe, maybe not.

Both of my husbands were kind, lovely men although completely different personalities.  Both marriages were happy.  I was very lucky that two wonderful men fell in love with me.  Maybe I'll be lucky again, who knows.

Am I looking for a third husband?  Nope.  But, I'm keeping an open mind about a future relationship.  If it happens, great, if it doesn't, eh, I'm not going to worry about it.

The older I get, the more I realize that I have no real control over major events in life.   So, I'm rolling with it.  That's all any of us can really do.

[CrazyKittyLvr2]

The only man I would want in my life at this point is one I can call to say my sink it leaking. Sink gets fixed, thanks, what do I owe you. See ya.

If I need companionship I'll get a dog. There are too many loonies walking around and I have no desire to weed through them.

[Sapphiregal]

NEVER NEVER NEVER EVER!!!!!!!I

Sometimes I wonder why I ever married in the first place.....and I have been married 50 years! Just saying...we do some stupid things when we are young and if I could go back in time (and know what I know now) ---- you can bet your bottom dollar I would have stayed single.

[SouthernBee]

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@gidgetgh wrote:

I lost my husband almost 2 years ago.  For almost all that time, my answer was a firm no.

But I have kind of changed my feelings on that in the last few months.  Evolving feelings, working through the grief, I guess.  I am "only" 66 years old.  I think I would really love to be in a relationship again, if I found the right person.  I really miss having someone to share my life with.  Not just anyone. They would have to be really special, but I am open to the idea of a new relationship and we'd have to see if it went beyond casual relationship.  

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@gidgetgh : Wishing the very best for you. You have been through so much and so many changes. 
I am mostly the caregiver for my precious DH. He deals with ptsd and other health issues but still has several good and normal days. I will be 68 next month and noticing a lot of changes for me. I now use a stand up walker and struggling with mobility, strength and energy and doing the best for us. Scared but that is the reality of life. We really love each other and enjoying our time together. I didn't get married the first time until I was almost 35. MIL never liked me. We were married less than 5 years. His former girlfriend got a divorce and returned to town and she was best friends with his mother. He tried to take everything that I had but thank God that I had a great lawyer. I got my maiden name back and swore that I would never marry again. Never say never. But now dealing with the the reality of my health issues and scared if something should happen to DH. I would not remarry but knowing and understanding that DH would need someone. You really don't know what you will do until everything changes.♥️🤗🙏🙏🙏

[EastCoastGal]

To those of you who are married to a wonderful person after many years or who are widowed and would never marry again... I envy you so much!! I was married twice and then was engaged again. I never did find the kind person l wanted in my life... and at 74 (in two weeks) it's too late because of health issues l now have...but that's okay...

[CalminHeart]

Heck no!  I was married for a looong time and he walked out on the kids and me. He was a lazy and uninvolved father.  The only good thing is that he was on time with child support until the kids were out of high school. 

I learned a long time ago to walk away at the first sign of a man who looks down on those who can't help him, who thinks women should be any kind of submissive, whose politics are waaay different than mine, who mistreats a waiter/cashier/etc, acts like a jerk at any time, talks down to me, etc.

I don't need a man to be whole. I am stronger, wiser, and better than I ever was while married.

I'd rather be alone and happy than with someone and unhappy.

[ciao_bella]

Three words:  Nope, Nada, Never!