Why would she do this ???? - Page 3

fancy pantsy · ‎06-25-2014

all i keep thinking is that this is not a good way to begin this whole wedding chapter. and i agree with others who have said that there seems to be more going on under the surface.

gidgetgh · ‎03-09-2010

What’s the divorce rate in America again?

Seriously, I am SO glad that, 28 years ago, we got married at home. I bought a floral dress from Talbots and told my sister (matron of honor) to get a dress that she liked. Told my mom the same thing. My dad wore a suit.

We sent out invitations, had really pretty flowers and had a cookout, appetizers and stuff ahead of dinner, beer and wine and a traditional wedding cake. $1,400 total, including my dress.

At the end of the day, we were just as married as couples who spend gazillions of dollars for their wedding, spend months with hoopla and bridezilla moments and get insulted if someone jumps the gun and buys a dress. It’s a dress for heaven’s sake.

Seriously, in the end, no one cares. The guests really don’t care. They go home, take their shoes off, change their clothes, throw away the little take home gifts and are thrilled to have that obligation behind them.

I just am so not into hoopla and angst, especially when it comes to weddings and funerals.

Why is it, when I have a 50/50 guess at something, I'm always 100% wrong?

Allegheny · ‎03-19-2010

Oh piddle. Both are wrong. Except for group pictures, colors of dresses for the mothers are no big deal.

Bride shouldn't have gotten frosty except for the fact that her future MIL jumped the gun even when told details were going to be provided. Then on the MOG's part mothers now a days know the protocol. MOG shouldn't have gotten an attitude and have been more receptive toward returning the dress. MOG should defer to the bride, after all it her wedding.

In the long run MOG has more to lose in this situation.

MarkeieMark · ‎06-24-2012

The DIL to be sounds like a real sweet heart, and then the stupid son had to get involved. Is he going to the cake tasting too?

Lilysmom · ‎03-09-2010

Elope. If I had to do it over again I would. LM

mom2four0418 · ‎04-23-2010

Who knows what was actually said between the parties. This is a third hand story. If the details were not yet known, it would have been a kind and loving thing for MOG to speak with bride and groom before purchasing an outfit.

“The soul is healed by being with children.”
— Fyodor Dostoyevsky

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@henderson wrote:
My son is getting married in Sept. after 12 years of being with his girlfriend. In fact we're leaving soon to go visit (they live in another state) and find out all the details of the wedding. I would never purchase a dress without knowing what his fiancee wants me to wear, color, style, etc.

Yes, that's the way it's done today and honestly, that's the way it has always been. The bride decides on her colors and what type of wedding she will have and the mothers then select their outfits. I'm knocking on the door to 60 and I've never known it to be any other way. My younger daughter was married in her garden, there just 60 people but the groom's mother and I still got her input as to what we were to wear. It was her wedding and we all wanted the pictures be beautiful and coordinated. I don't know my friend's sister so I don't know if there were other factors in play. It seemed odd to both of us that she would buy an entire outfit when the bride specifically said she would provide details after she made her plans.

mom2four0418 · ‎04-23-2010

@MarkeieMark wrote:
The DIL to be sounds like a real sweet heart, and then the stupid son had to get involved. Is he going to the cake tasting too?

Why would he not go to the cake testing?

“The soul is healed by being with children.”
— Fyodor Dostoyevsky

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@mom2four0418 wrote:

Who knows what was actually said between the parties. This is a third hand story. If the details were not yet known, it would have been a kind and loving thing for MOG to speak with bride and groom before purchasing an outfit.

I didn't get the idea that she had any words with the bride, other than bride not liking that she bought a dress before she knew a single thing about the wedding. I think it was whatever was said between the mother and her son that is the sticking point here. So often people only tell half of a story.

Mj12 · ‎03-09-2010

@mom2four0418 wrote:
@MarkeieMark wrote:
The DIL to be sounds like a real sweet heart, and then the stupid son had to get involved. Is he going to the cake tasting too?

Why would he not go to the cake testing?

I'd like to know that too. @MarkeieMark why "shouldn't" the son go to the cake testing?