Among Friends

[apple1964]

When I read your thread I thought you meant that your husband forgot your B-day or something? Husbands are not mean at least mine is not. Your a grown women you should know yourself that this is not normal. I would kick him to the curb. Try marriage counseling. Not air my dirty laundry on a channel shopping forum. 

[happycat]

apple1964, sometimes it is better to say nothing, if we can't be nice. I'm not sure why you felt the need to kick the author when she is down.

[Moonchilde]

---

@happycat wrote:

apple1964, sometimes it is better to say nothing, if we can't be nice. I'm not sure why you felt the need to kick the author when she is down.

---

General comprehension and communication issues.

[Annabellethecat66]

I just got on the computer for a second this morning (Tuesday) and I see where this post is still going on.

Just a few days ago, (it made the news) a man shot and killed his wife.  When the police responded, he killed one police woman and wounded 2 others.

This was a 'domestic dispute'.  I mention this to put a spotlight on the fact that domestic disputes happen everywhere.  I know this area where these people live because it isn't far from me.

This is an area where the homes are at least $450,000.  These were upper middle class (as far as income) people.  Some have the mistaken idea that abusement is mainly a problem in low(er) income households.  They couldn't be more wrong!  It is everywhere.  

If this person (and others) who are in this kind of environment reads any of these posts I hope they will heed what is said here and GET OUT of the relationship.  

These days there is a lot of help for those who are living in an atmosphere of fear.

So, now this dear 11 year old boy (their son) no longer has his Mom (or his Dad).  He went from living a comfortable life, where he had his mom and dad, to (for all purposes) being an orphan.  His life will never be normal.  From what everyone I know surmises, he was there when his Dad shot his Mom.  Can you imagine what he saw?  I can't.

Please anyone who has read these posts (some really good advice has been given), please leave.  If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your children.  If you don't have children, do it for all who love you.  The reason I say that is because often people who have been mentally (not always physically) abused have had their self-confidence stripped, so they need to be reminded that others are also affected by this.  People who love them.

I have a friend who's a retired police Sargent.  We have all been friends for over 50 years.  He joined the police force when he was 18 years old.  He said from day one he was taught that the most dangerous call a policeman can go on is a "domestic dispute" call.  

A policeman will go to the house and in a blink the person who called the police will turn on the police.  

[Gayle2]

Hello,

If you haven't already done it, build a good support network locally.  Close friends, neighbors, chuch members etc so that you don't feel isolated.  Dealing with aging parents and marriage challenges can feel lonely if not overwhelming.    Everyone needs a sounding board from time to time.  Best to you.

[RinaRina]

---

@Citrine1 wrote:

He scolded you like your a child?  I'd tell him to f*** off.

---

======================

Okay!  One more time ...

"He scolded you like your a child?  I'd tell him to f*** off."

Bingo!  And it's not too late to say so.

[Mustang Shar]

Omg, my heart is breaking for you!

Move in with your Mom? You need a plan, I know you are trapped into staying...PLAN. I can't even how sad you feel inside.

hugs!