@Shanus wrote:
@hyacinth003 Coincidentally, we spent the afternoon yesterday at our attorney's office checking and re-writing our will. When we arrived to the conference room, he had the copyof our will. We have the original in our home safe.
I remember that you posted here a long time ago about the difficulties you were having settling this estate. I feel so badly that your Dad's passing has caused so many issues for you. You should have been able to grieve with your family and not have all this aggravation.
***I hope the attorneys doing the wrongful death suit are doing it for a percentage (if you win) and not a fee per hour.
In my personal opinion, all information and documents should be shared with your brother, in an offer of peace. Keeping him in the dark can only cause more issues when and if the lawsuit is settled with or without monetary gain.
According to my DH, a tax accountant, because of COVID and extending tax return deadlines the last 2 years, the IRS is overwhelmed , impossible to even get a call back on simple questions. Many agents are still working from home without access to documents/letters. He has clients that are waiting since 2020 to get any closure to refunds, notices, etc.
I hope this is settled in a reasonable amount of time for you. It's been going on way too long.
@Shanus
The lawsuit is on a contingency basis. They just informed me they are taking the case as there is enough evidence of negligence and wrongful death. I decided now to tell my brother as I wasn't sure before they would take the case. I feel it's right to tell him, and ask him if they have original copies of the Will.
I have been so angered by lack of simple cooperation in handling the Estate. It delayed it and caused me untold stress. And I KNOW I was lied to. While getting the tax return prepared, I knew there were funds disbursed and taxed that I couldn't find the origin of. It delayed me for months investigating it. Turns out, my dad named my brother beneficiary of some IRA funds as a wedding gift (1997). So, while alive, my dad got money monthly in a certain account. Upon his passing, this went to my brother. MY SIL lied to me repeatedly about knowing NOTHING about any of this. Of course she knew, because she made the transfer from my dad's account to hers. It is a lot of money, and they thought I would claim half, since the Will left everything to us equally.
I wouldn't and didn't claim half because my brother was the designated beneficiary. But I spent countless hours trying to account for all this. I received a document BY MISTAKE (since I was getting my Dad's mail) about this policy and then I figured out the LIE.
Yes, COVID delayed things for me handling the Estate.
Hyacinth