Among Friends

[hckynut]

I found out about 2 years ago that many I thought were my friends? I am talking years and decades now, not casual acquaintances. I decided it was best for my wife and myself to end the Adult Hockey League I formed/inaugurated and ran by myself(nothing delegated to others) for 52+ years.

Out of the hundreds that played the last season of My League, I have heard from only 3 of them. Sure, it bothered me, but I very soon excepted the fact, that take "hockey" out of the equation, these men, and women, were not really true friends. We were just adults that love the same sport of  ice hockey, and I look back at them as "among the many hundreds, maybe over a thousand" of men and women I met over those 52+ years.

As far as your "close friend"?  My way would be to contact her directly by telephone/express your concern and see if you get a reasonable and satisfactory answer. If not, wait and see if she contacts you. If not? You made the best move and the rest is up to her. If she does not respond? Move on!

hckynut(john)

[dex]

@Ladygray I read your post about the man that you were dating awhile back and you stated that you didn't respond to his email because you were just too tired after work.Cut your friend some slack...maybe she is just emotionally exhausted and will post when she is up to it.If you think something dangerous may be happening to her then call and make sure that she is okay.

[Plaid Pants2]

The o/p has abandoned this thread.

Especially when people questioned what was it all about her, and she showed zero concern about her "friend".

Personally, I think this is all still a con game.

But, she'll be back, undoubtedly with some other "crisis".

[ScarletDove]

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@Ladygray wrote:

Well, we normally communicate daily.    Also, if I don't respond immediately to her e-mails or texts, she's all over me... the last time that happened she texted, "I guess you didn't care for my e-mail, oh well, have a good weekend."   Within minutes, she texted, "I guess you didn't care for my text either."  

When I told her I'm responding to her e-mail, but I need time to gather my thoughts, an hour later she writes, "Did you fall asleep at the computer?"

If I had a "friend" who acted like that (I don't and wouldn't), I would never put up with that kind of constant nastiness!  It doesn't sound like this person is a friend, rather she is an acquaintance.  I would prefer a civil person to communicate with! 

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[bamasec]

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@Katcat1 wrote:

@Ladygray,   What ever happened to picking up the phone and calling her and telling her you sent a few emails and she has not replied.  Is everything okay?  This texting and emailing is an easy way out.  Face it head on and talk to her.  

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Great Post IMO. I am so tired of people hiding behind texting. Can you not pick up the phone for 5 minutes? Yes it is an easy way out, I agree 100%

                                                                        bamasec

[SunValley]

Friendship doesn't mean you are tethered at all times or are the most important person in each other's lives. I would be suffocated mentally and emotionally in this type of relationship.