Among Friends

[chrystaltree]

It's not that this poster changed her name.  I don't have a problem with that but I do think it's dishonest to change your name AND resurrect an old post.  And she got caught in her shenanigans.  So what was the point?

[geezerette]

@paulabugs 

My sincere condolences on the loss of your beloved husband.💔🙏

[Irmasdc]

I, along with my siblings (4 of us) are caregivers for our mother who is suffering from dementia & pill rolling Parkinson's. 2 of us are extremely informed of all appts & medical info. 2 of us are not. That doesn't diminish the fact that they're still caregivers. What might seem crucial to me, they can blow off. I think caregiving has become so out of control that on top of becoming one, there's also all the guilt that goes hand in hand. 
I don't wanna be a nurse, a CNA, a candy striper, a medical Asst or a physical therapist. I never grew up saying I wanted employment in the medical field. I feel forced to do it. That then turns to resentment which turns to guilt. I love my mother, but I don't want that job. Those who have no choice are judged by the amount of care by others who welcomed the position. That's unfair. It doesn't mean I love my mother less & don't care how she's taken care of. It means I don't want to be the one doing it. Unfortunately for us, she refuses help from anyone other than us. No grandchildren no friends no one else. Just us. I also have a Mr of 25yrs who's an incomplete quadriplegic & has had 2 heart attacks within 3yrs not to mention my own gastric bypass catastrophe. It's not a matter of dropping everything and demanding answers in a certain time frame. Some things are just out of our control. 

on another note. If I found out a friend questioned my decisions and called to get comparable medical info we'd have another conversation. That was out of line, to me. 

[CatsyCline]

my mother's friend would butt in quite often regarding mother's life, health, her surgeries, her post-surg rehab stays,  medical appointments, the pandemic, on and on. 

was always astonished that ____would be telling me what to do and basically saying i was a bad daughter. i also had my own health issues (started w my own surgeries years before mom's) .

___would phone me and txt long messages. when we spoke she would be overbearing and intrusive.  one time ___ ordered a rollator from Amazon for mom and the minute she saw it was delivered called us to make sure i was immediately assembling the thing.

mentioned all these communiques to mother and she just shrugged. shook her head.  i mean, this woman was HER friend, and it would have been best to have a conversation with HER FRIEND to say my daughter is helping me as much as possible.  i knew of this friend but we had rarely interacted in the past.

was difficult dealing with ___ for years until mother relocated.  my personal feeling is this friend had a poor connection to her own mother for a number of reasons.   maybe it was her way of compensating?