What surprised you most about getting older? - Page 7

Jamma · ‎03-10-2010

@dex wrote:
I have more confidence but other than that I too believe I am still that twenty year old inside.When I pass a mirror in a store I am always shocked by the old lady I see.

Oh dear God me too!

Jamma

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

I used to clean the house in a day, now I clean a room in a day. When I was young I didn't think about moving at a slower pace.

I also care more about needs and less on wants. I have downsized which feels good.

I have definitely gained wisdom over the years.

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

I am not sure what age would be considered 'older' but I was 61 this year..and currently what I have noticed that things that might have caused be angst several years ago do not now....like the holidays....we always shared holidays with the married daughter and once they divorced, mom moved and we were not able to have those family gatherings, she moved far away.....it was really, really hard the first 3-4 years, today it's OK.

On Thanksgiving dh and I take off for a few days, the only time we get away during the year. Daughter is now back in the area so we will have Christmas together which is great...I am looking forward to hosting but if she were not here, I'd be OK with just my husband and another friend that is alone on the holiday.

Now I need to work on the one thing that botheres me the most.....I am a cryer.....I am good in a crisis and I keep a level head but if we have a family member or friend that is seriously ill or that passes away, I can only keep tears at bay for so long, and then the flood gates open....it's that I am so very sad to lose them as well as the sadness for the family.....maybe that will come with additional 'age', ha!

Q4u · ‎03-17-2010

@house_cat wrote:
I think for me it's the realization that I'm still the same person I was when i was 12, for good or bad - same likes and dislikes, same fears and insecurities.

Also, I thought if we had our kids when we were young, by now we'd be independent, enjoying our grown kids and grandkids. That wasn't in the cards for us. I guess it's time to reevaluate those expectations.

Did anything about aging catch you by surprise?

Yes, people don't see me as young as I feel.... especially my doctor, LOL~!

"Let me hold the door open for you Ma'am".....

*~"Never eat more than you can lift......" Miss Piggy~*

chiclets · ‎07-01-2012

Youth is wasted on the young.

house_cat · ‎03-09-2010

I'm so glad I asked the original question. Your responses make me feel less alone.

I have to add one thing that occurred to me since my first posting - it surprises me how men seem to fall apart long before women do. My husband is 9 mos younger than me. He turned 57 this past September, yet it feels like he's 10 years older than I am. I still have tons of energy and plans for the future, while he seems to be reconciled that our best days are behind us. I know that this is due in large part to his physical ailments. He had to retire early because he's in constant pain from RA and spinal injuries. I love him like crazy and I don't mind being the breadwinner while he takes it easy, but I do feel like I'm living with an old man and that surprises me. My hope was that we'd grow old together, but it seems like he got there first, lol.

~ house cat ~

IamMrsG · ‎08-29-2010

I admit to not having read all seven pages of this thread, so if I am repeating someone, I apologize. The one thing that surprises me most about getting older is how fast I got here.

Strive for respect instead of attention. It lasts longer.

KarenQVC · ‎05-13-2010

That I can be presented with a bad situation and peacefully live through it. My skills in that dept. have increased.

ladyroxanne · ‎03-09-2010

@house_cat

reading your latest post resonated with me, but in a minor way.

dh has had a couple issues in the past few years which thankfully are now behind us. i do have to chuckle though because whatever it is, he is such a big baby! i mean even the thought of a head cold sends him into a tailspin.

men go to war for heaven sake. i would hope for your sake that your husband gets through this (respectfully, sounds like some sort of depression) and you two can enjoy getting older.

insomniac2 · ‎02-20-2016

I had no clue that I'd be suffering from arthritis--to the point where I've already had one hip and knee replaced, and now I'll be doing the same for the right side.

I used to be able to walk so fast! When I delivered mail (for five years), my nickname was Speedy.

Very humbling. . .