Among Friends

[151949]

Certainly things never work out the way we expect and when we get old and look back at our lives it is always shocking. I have experienced more than my share of horrible , shocking events in my life. At my job as an ICU nurse new nurses in the department would say  how calm I remain in a crisis and just do what needs to be done without panic. My answer was always "I've had more than my share of experience with crisis" They thought I meant at work but I meant in my own life.

[20sally]

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@HB glamma wrote:

How much like my mother I've turned out!!  (the good and the bad, ha ha)

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LOl! @HB glamma!

me too!

[deedledeedeedle]

@house_cat, excellent question! I've pondered over this question and have come to realize the anger (?), impatience (?), disappointment (?) I feel toward the aging process for me personally and its effect on my body & mind. I now understand the quip about living large yet leaving a good looking corpse! I think it also means leaving a good feeling corpse with a young brain .

To explain further, now that I'm approaching the twilight years I don't relish the thought of losing my independence in any way or my mind to the ravishes of dementia. 

I internalize these fears & never complain about them, pushing myself to stay young, relevant & relatable in the work force. I love my job, thankfully, and probably have worried over this issue and disparaged myself sometimes needlessly. I'm

grateful that I've been blessed to maintain the job skills & manage the increased work flow at this "advanced age" and to get myself " up and at em" daily LOL.

On the personal front, I am surprised that my true friends have become so very important, relieving some (actually a lot) of the sting of family losses.

Sorry for the lengthy post to this thought provoking question.

dee

[Evie2004]

Ok, this is hard, but is it possible to grow apart from your spouse in a long-term marriage?grown successful kids (same state- 2-4 hrs away), set financially, living in forever home (maybe), some health problems for both (manageable)

Husband perfectly happy with same old, is it possible to stay in love & fall out of "like"-- see, this is hard...this is my surprise of getting "older"