@barb40-
I had a friend like that.
We've known each other almost all our lives and been best friends for a lot of that.
But at some point, both our lives had so many changes with family, children, moving and just life that we eventually stopped communicating even though a few times before that when we got together it was like we'd never stopped being bff's.
But she would say call me anytime but admitted she rarely looked at her phone or email and would say lets do it again but when I would suggest a time she often wouldn't answer.
I found out her mother was sick, then she got a divorce then moved across the country.
I am sad about it but treasure the years we had together.
A very wise friend said she felt there were seasons for when people come into our lives. I've begun to appreciate that and them for those times in my life.
However, another friend who I've known for about 50 years, I don't think we will ever stop being friends even though we don't live in the same state. We still visit and both of us never feel any pressure to call or anything, just when we think to call, its usually both of us felt like calling or texting. We share happy news and sad.
I've learned it's okay when our friendships sometimes don't last forever but to be thankful for having had them.
There will be all kinds of friends we have in our lives and its good to appreciate them all.
I wanted to add that like others have said, if a friend keeps saying lets get together etc. but you are always doing the calling, I would stop calling.
My mother a few long time friends like this. They enjoyed each other but she found after awhile she was the one who initiated any getting together. She decided too that she wouldn't call anymore and that was that as @Kachina624 said.
Or a friend who never asks about you and only talks about herself and her life, that is not really a friendship and I would talk to them about how I felt. If it didn't change I wouldn't consider that a friend.
Nor as someone brought up in another thread, someone who tells a person who is alone during the holidays all the wonderful times they had with their many family members, or went somewhere they know their friend has always wanted to go or do yet didn't invite them.
That to me is selfish and insensitive, someone who just doesn't have any emotional intelligence.
Anyway, its a subject that I guess we will all try to figure out. Friendship can at times be very hurtful, hard to understand, but we shouldn't give it up, cause somewhere there might just be that great true one, a "kindred spirit" who knows what friendship is.
"If you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you'll learn things you never knew. Can you sing with all the voices of the mountains? can you paint with all the colors of the wind?"
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