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What do you wear on your finger ''after''?

What is your opinion - if your spouse dies, do you - or will you still be wearing your wedding band after he/she's gone?

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Re: What do you wear on your finger ''after''?

@sarahpanda I do not wear my wedding band now and we have been married since Oct of 1986.  I all honesty, I have put on extra weight and at one time worked wjere one could NOT wear their jewelry so it also became habit.  As for a death, I would come to terms with that in my own time and would adjust my band in accordance I think.......

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Re: What do you wear on your finger ''after''?

I never had an engagement ring but I still wear my plain gold wedding band...it's an important part of my life so I'll never take it off.

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I think that is an individual, personal choice and wearing it or not would be appropriate for the widow.

I would still wear mine.

I would not listen to any opinions of anyone who might try to give advice either. 

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Re: What do you wear on your finger ''after''?

Doesn't seem like a productive discussion. . . 

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After a couple of unpleasant encounters when I took of the wedding band ....

 

I wear a "faux" wedding band .... the reason ...

 

I used to travel a lot on Amtrak between NY and DC, and fly between NY and FL.  

 

Getting a bit too much unwelcome attention ... so I bought a Diamonique band ring from QVC ... 

 

Still wearing it ... 

 

 

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 My husband passed 5 years ago.  I still wear my wedding rings. Have no intention of taking them off. Don't want to remarry. Never crossed my mind.  This is 52 Years.

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Both my mom and my aunt wore their wedding rings after they lost their husband's and were buried with them.  My friend lost her husband when she wax 35, she wore her wedding and engagement rings for about 5 years.  She wasn't ready to date and rings kept guys from asking her out.  A coworker who lost her husband stopped wearing her wedding set and wore the diamond from her engagement ring as a pendant that she never took off.  I really loved that idea.  She continued wearing it even after she remarried.  People do what feels right to them.  

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It's a very personal decision and one the widow will make in her own time.  Who cares what others do. 

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Re: What do you wear on your finger ''after''?

I am widowed almost 2 years and I don't wear a ring anymore but I didn't wear one all the time when my husband was alive.

 

My fingers swell in warm weather and in winter the rings snag on knit gloves.  I do what is right for me.