Among Friends

[redbird]

I would probably give him a small thank you gift as you might give a friend for helping you.

[RedTop]

I would just do the job myself, since handyman is out of the picture; no way would I reach out to my ex.  

[DottieBlue]

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@rms1954 wrote:

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@Love my grandkids wrote:

@rms1954 Oh good grief. Sometimes people just want to get some feedback, nothing wrong with that/ You've posted a lot about your situation so I can understand why you react as you do when people ask for advice.

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I gave my feedback as others did.  It's too bad you interpreted it differently.  Just tried to instill her confidence and feel secure in them.  You're response was unkind.  I posted in the past about my situation but I don't ask for advice.  I don't think you know or understand me at all.  

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@rms1954 

I also interpreted your response as being harsh and critical.  I apologize, since you say that is not how you meant it.

[hckynutjohn]

@Luvsmyfam 

I know many that have an "ex" and they are very good friends, some with a kid, some without. Nobody here knows your relationship with your "ex", well maybe some do, but I sure don't.

You know what you should do, but I sure as he!! don't!

hckynut 🥅🏒

[Luvsmyfam]

@RedTop well,it's a 2 or 3 person job,so I couldn't do it by myself.we v have been divorced 11 yrs,and even a few yrs back,I would never ask him to do anything for me,but we are both older,wiser,and now just want peace in our lives.not to mention it's better for our daughter and grandkids.i just hated them seeing us bicker.

[RedTop]

@Luvsmyfam 

For the first 7 years of our married life, we lived in a home with no storm windows, so I'm no stranger to covering windows with plastic.  

I cut heavy duty plastic from a roll, used felt stripping, and tacks, to cover 60" windows in my dining and bedroom, and 4  48" windows in the living room - - by myself, every year.   

[PickyPicky3]

@Luvsmyfam    I love examples of how our relationships can change for the better over the years. They inspire all of us to think about our own "stuck" issues.

[jubilant]

@Luvsmyfam   Every situation is so unique so I am not going to give advice. I know divorced people who still celebrate holidays together with kids and grandparents, and their ex spouse.  Outside of that or a death in the family  they don't really have much contact other than grand-childrens birthdays, Christmas, and Easter dinners, etc. The  people I know have not remarried either. My opinion and from what I have seen in other situations such as this would be...... that if I wasn't "one bit interested" in my ex-spouse, I would want to be very careful about giving false hopes to him.

[Luvsmyfam]

@jubilant no false hopes from either one of us.i guess you can't ever go back in time.whats sad is,we were gradeschool sweethearts and thru high-school days.

[chrystaltree]

If someone was doing a big favor like that for me, of course I would offer him a nice meal.  Especially since it's Sunday.