Among Friends

[CalminHeart]

Run like h---!  Don't walk!  If this kind of ****** is going on now, just imagine what it'd be like if they were married.

[Big Joanie]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

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@Big Joanie wrote:

If they marry and have children .. would the children be invited and

not the wife ( the non-Smith ) ?

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      Wives are family my world.  

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I am not talking about your world ...the world the Smith family lives in....

[chrystaltree]

The funny thing is if they really do get married and for his sake, I hope not because she sounds immature and clingy.  But if they do marry and she becomes family.....she'll be praying for reasons to get out of going to "another" Smith reunion....lol

[chrystaltree]

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@Big Joanie wrote:

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@chrystaltree wrote:

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@Big Joanie wrote:

If they marry and have children .. would the children be invited and

not the wife ( the non-Smith ) ?

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      Wives are family my world.  

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I am not talking about your world ...the world the Smith family lives in....

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        People are making more of this than it deserves, must be hitting some nerves but while don't know the Smiths, I'm sure wives are family and the kids are family.  Honestly it's odd to me that this situation seems strange to so many people.  

[Lainey59]

If none of them are married and they aren't bringing girlfriends or boyfriends than I don't see what the problem is.  If they aren't singling her out then it's not about her.  When my brother invites me over for dinner and his wife isn't home I'm actually very happy because we can talk about our family and growing up and mutual friends.

[Big Joanie]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

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@Big Joanie wrote:

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@chrystaltree wrote:

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@Big Joanie wrote:

If they marry and have children .. would the children be invited and

not the wife ( the non-Smith ) ?

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      Wives are family my world.  

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I am not talking about your world ...the world the Smith family lives in....

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        People are making more of this than it deserves, must be hitting some nerves but while don't know the Smiths, I'm sure wives are family and the kids are family.  Honestly it's odd to me that this situation seems strange to so many people.  

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No .. not hitting a nerve here .. just taking a break from hurricane news after

finding out my daughter .. who was there alone .. made it all right and that

my roof in Ft. Myers didn't blow off ....Frankly posting here is just something

to do when bored.....

[Happiness Is Inside JOB]

I learned a phrase early in my dating life.  It is "fill in woman"....

I feel this is the case in this situation.  A man or woman is dating a person because they have not met "BETTER".... they intentially do not take the person to certain events or even treat them very nicely.

I was a fill in before I got married.  The man mean't be no good, I learned people will date you for YEARS all the while, KNOW full well they have no intention of settling down or if you by chance happen to have the "bad" luck of having a child by them.....Your child will NEVER be supported or "TREATED" like the kids from the women they "VALUE".

He is NOT taking her to the EVENT because he does NOT WANT TO.  BOTTOM LINE...

It is a clear sign and if she uses wisdom she would take heed and plan to move forward.  I would never tell someone to JUMP without a plan.  Does she have a job, can she pay her own rent, does she live with him, all those things have to be taken into consideration.

People will USE you your ENTIRE LIFE, and when he "meets" the "RIGHT WOMAN" for him, he will DUMP her like a "HOT POTATO" with no loooking back.

Just a few examples of a feel in actons: never meet his "main" family, many you don't meet many of his friends, strickly a "house" relationship, constantly break up and makeup, rollercoaster relationship where for no rhyme or reason he starts acting funny, you never get a birthday, Xmas or valentines day gift, when ever you "NEED" help - he is not around and you can't depend on him.

I wish this lady luck because she "MIGHT" be wasting her time and LIFE is too short to be with people who are really just using YOU until they "MEET BETTER".

[Big Joanie]

Great post .. and good point ....

[Drythe]

I would never want to attend any event where I wasn't wanted.

However, as regards to this relationship I would give the fact of not being included some thought as it relates to other facts we may not possess.

[hckynut]

@Happiness Is Inside JOB

Sure glad my wife thought differently than you. We now have hit the 45 year mark, 15 as husband and wife. All of these have been pretty much happy years, through some very tough times.

hckynut(john)