What do you think about this? - Page 4

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

@Quse Fair enough.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

It sounds like just don't want to go to that shower but for some reason you cannot give yourself permission to just send your regrets and move along. We don't have accept every single invitaation that arrives even from close friends and family. No one expects that everyone they invite will come anyway. I love weddings but I don't like wedding showers, I never did. Now I just don't go unless it's a daugter of mine or niece. If I don't go to the shower, I do not send a gift, You are hung up on the old rules which never were written in stone. Etiquette and social rules evolve over time and that has always been the case. Just as I have become comfortable with invitations by email, now there are invitations and save the dates via Facebook. I missed a couple of things because I don't spend much time on FB and I don't check notifications or whatever or whever you find those things.

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

I've been invited to family events that I did not want to go to and I didn't and I didn't allow anyone to try to guilt me into it.

kaydee50 · ‎02-07-2011

@Quse wrote:
Thank you all for your input, it seems, yet again, Divine intervention solved another "problem" (non problem).

The message in today's service: "How to defeat strife"...self centeredness creates strife, take yourself out of the center and esteem others higher than yourself= defeating strife.
Walk in love.

And *boom*, just like that, there it is.

I will go, I will bring the best gift that I can afford, I will enjoy the company of friends and the sisters that are throwing the shower, and I will focus on the couple's excitement and happiness of their future together, I will wish them well (I'll see them at the wedding anyway, I was always planning to attend the wedding)....because it isn't about me.
How much stuff they have is none of my business. Doesn't matter, any of it.
Sometimes I need to just put it down, stare at it...then get a smackdown from above...lol
Thanks ladies.

I understand what you're saying and I admire you for it. But if it were me, I still wouldn't go! They may truly want to share their happiness but going to the wedding is sufficient iMO. A second shower for a second marriage just seems greedy.

Imaoldhippie · ‎06-10-2015

If you dont want to go dont go. Easy peasy!

LIFE IS TO SHORT TOO FOLD FITTED SHEETS

Kitlynn · ‎03-09-2010

Things have changed a lot through the years that is for sure! People do email invites a lot now because it is cheaper than having invitations done and all that entails. I like old school ways myself. Now that being said I feel like if you don't want to go or don't want to give a gift then don't do it. Don't even worry about trying to justify your feelings there is no need to do that. Anytime you give a gift or attend something it should be because you really want to do it. Plain and simple you don't owe anyone an explanation.

jackthebear · ‎03-11-2010

evites don't bother me,

an invitation (when did it become an invite?) is not a command, one needs only to say yes or no,that is all that is required.
it is also required of the invitor(?) to accept a No response politely and not inquire any further as to why someone is not coming.
OP don't go if you don't want to, just send back the Evite with a No and be done
2nd Marriage yes probably they don't need stuff but maybe someone wants to host some type of preweddng thing for them or the bride

Goldengate8361 · ‎01-27-2014

I don't think there should ever be showers for anyone (1st marriage or a subsequent marriage!). It's such an incredibly outdated notion. If folks can't afford to set up their household themselves, they seriously should not be getting married.

Its just silly illy to be bothered by an emailed invitation. I would be totally annoyed if I only received a "hard" copy. I, for one, do NOT read or regularly check hard mail.