Walking with a Friend - Page 4

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

@Nightowlz wrote:
@chrystaltree wrote:
Why can't you just be honest with her? You said she's a friend, there's a level of honesty between me and my friends. Actually, I am not proud to say that did what your friend did. I made plans to walk in the mornings with a friend but I found it hard sticking to a firm schedule. I work, she's retired and I couldn't commit to specific time on any given day. She acted like an adult, she said that she couldn't wait for me and she liked walking at the same time every day but if I wanted to walk with her at 6:45 on any weekday, I could just call her. I wasn't angry with her, I totally understood and sometimes I do call her at 6:30am and I meet her at her building at 6:45 and we walk together.
@chrystaltree

I'm wondering why she cannot be honest with me. She asked me if I wanted to walk with her yet most of the time she cannot make it. If she changed her mind all she has to do is say so. I don't care one way or the other. I just don't like getting up to go walking with her to find out she's not coming again.
I'm not the one making excuses as to why we cannot walk.
I got my 4 miles in.

@Nightowlz

You need to find a way to tell her exactly what you are saying right here.

You aren't the one making excuses as to why you can't walk, but you seem to be making excuses for her.

She's not showing much respect for your time and effort. Time to set her straight.

riley1 · ‎03-10-2010

You should be honest & upfront with her as to why it isn't working for you.

This is why I choose to not have a walking partner - everthing is just easier that way.

Nightowlz · ‎03-11-2010

@QueenDanceALot wrote:
@Nightowlz wrote:
@chrystaltree wrote:
Why can't you just be honest with her? You said she's a friend, there's a level of honesty between me and my friends. Actually, I am not proud to say that did what your friend did. I made plans to walk in the mornings with a friend but I found it hard sticking to a firm schedule. I work, she's retired and I couldn't commit to specific time on any given day. She acted like an adult, she said that she couldn't wait for me and she liked walking at the same time every day but if I wanted to walk with her at 6:45 on any weekday, I could just call her. I wasn't angry with her, I totally understood and sometimes I do call her at 6:30am and I meet her at her building at 6:45 and we walk together.
@chrystaltree

I'm wondering why she cannot be honest with me. She asked me if I wanted to walk with her yet most of the time she cannot make it. If she changed her mind all she has to do is say so. I don't care one way or the other. I just don't like getting up to go walking with her to find out she's not coming again.
I'm not the one making excuses as to why we cannot walk.
I got my 4 miles in.
@Nightowlz

You need to find a way to tell her exactly what you are saying right here.

You aren't the one making excuses as to why you can't walk, but you seem to be making excuses for her.

She's not showing much respect for your time and effort. Time to set her straight.

@QueenDanceALot

If you read my other posts you know she has a sister with cancer. I'm just letting things slide for now.

The holidays are coming & I will be busy so doubt I will be messing with it much until after New Years.

After New Years if I don't hear from her I will leave it at that.

I will just wait to see if she texts & asks about walking.

Nightowlz · ‎03-11-2010

@Sooner wrote:
@Nightowlz wrote:
@chrystaltree wrote:
Why can't you just be honest with her? You said she's a friend, there's a level of honesty between me and my friends. Actually, I am not proud to say that did what your friend did. I made plans to walk in the mornings with a friend but I found it hard sticking to a firm schedule. I work, she's retired and I couldn't commit to specific time on any given day. She acted like an adult, she said that she couldn't wait for me and she liked walking at the same time every day but if I wanted to walk with her at 6:45 on any weekday, I could just call her. I wasn't angry with her, I totally understood and sometimes I do call her at 6:30am and I meet her at her building at 6:45 and we walk together.
@chrystaltree

I'm wondering why she cannot be honest with me. She asked me if I wanted to walk with her yet most of the time she cannot make it. If she changed her mind all she has to do is say so. I don't care one way or the other. I just don't like getting up to go walking with her to find out she's not coming again.
I'm not the one making excuses as to why we cannot walk.
I got my 4 miles in.
@Nightowlz I'm confused. So you don't really have a problem with this and weren't seeking support or answers or alternatives, you were just posting about what is happening?

From some of your responses sounds like you are ok with it just frustrated.

@Sooner

I guess frustrated is a good word. Just wanted some thoughts on what others thought about the situation.

I will just wait to see if she texts about walking. If she wants to walk I will meet her if not I will go about what I always do.

dex · ‎03-09-2010

I think I would just tell her that I was leaving at a certain time and if she makes it great and if she doesn’t hopefully she can join you next time.I think she needs to understand that you have a schedule for walking that works for you and she is more than welcome to join you when she can make it on time.

libbyannE · ‎10-27-2010

I Would tell her honestly that all her cancellations waste your time and that you will have to walk without her.

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

@Nightowlz

You sound like a very kind friend. But, you do want your walks w/o hassle.

I believe I would tell her that I’d start walking on my street at xx:xx time, and would be happy to have her join in if she can make it.

Happy Trails!

"Animals are not my whole world, but they have made my world whole" ~ Roger Caras

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

@Nightowlz. You're right; you dont need this person. Just do your own thing. Hmmm, I wonder what the argument with her previous exercise buddy was about?

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QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

@Nightowlz wrote:
@QueenDanceALot wrote:
@Nightowlz wrote:
@chrystaltree wrote:
Why can't you just be honest with her? You said she's a friend, there's a level of honesty between me and my friends. Actually, I am not proud to say that did what your friend did. I made plans to walk in the mornings with a friend but I found it hard sticking to a firm schedule. I work, she's retired and I couldn't commit to specific time on any given day. She acted like an adult, she said that she couldn't wait for me and she liked walking at the same time every day but if I wanted to walk with her at 6:45 on any weekday, I could just call her. I wasn't angry with her, I totally understood and sometimes I do call her at 6:30am and I meet her at her building at 6:45 and we walk together.
@chrystaltree

I'm wondering why she cannot be honest with me. She asked me if I wanted to walk with her yet most of the time she cannot make it. If she changed her mind all she has to do is say so. I don't care one way or the other. I just don't like getting up to go walking with her to find out she's not coming again.
I'm not the one making excuses as to why we cannot walk.
I got my 4 miles in.
@Nightowlz

You need to find a way to tell her exactly what you are saying right here.

You aren't the one making excuses as to why you can't walk, but you seem to be making excuses for her.

She's not showing much respect for your time and effort. Time to set her straight.
@QueenDanceALot

If you read my other posts you know she has a sister with cancer. I'm just letting things slide for now.
The holidays are coming & I will be busy so doubt I will be messing with it much until after New Years.
After New Years if I don't hear from her I will leave it at that.
I will just wait to see if she texts & asks about walking.