Walking with a Friend

Nightowlz · ‎03-11-2010

A friend of mine asked me if I wanted to walk with her at the Mall a couple of times per week. I told her sure because I walk 4 miles or more 5-6 days per week.

Problem is she always has an excuse why she cannot make it.

I changed my plans to do this with her. I get up earlier than I normally would because she needs to get it done earlier. I thought ok no problem. The problem I have is getting up than receiving a text my alarm did not go off, my AC not's working, I just plain forgot etc. You get the picture.

When we do walk she talks about doing this more than twice per week. I told her I did not know about that I also have other things I need to do plus I don't want to get up early every day not to mention she can never make it. LOL!!!

What would you do? It's really getting old.

We do this on Tues & Thurs. I guess Thurs I can make up an excuse why I cannot go. LOL!!!

CrazyDaisy · ‎03-20-2010

Getting started is always the hardest part. Do not know how long you have been walking with her, just give it some time. Some need to be held accountable.

Someday, when scientists discover the center of the Universe....some people will be disappointed it is not them.

shaggygirl · ‎11-24-2011

Tell her the truth? Gently of course.

Peaches McPhee · ‎04-19-2010

I think I'd be honest with her. Friend, I don't think this is working for us. Our scheduled walk together has been cancelled so much lately, and this impacts my own walking schedule. Let's reconsider our schedule -- maybe fewer days.

-- pro-aging --

Rochester, New York

islandgrrl · ‎06-20-2010

@Nightowlz

You are a very thoughtful writer. Is there any chance you would be comfortable sending your friend an email that (gently) spells out the inconvenience of getting up early only to find that she has cancelled? It doesn't sound like her heart is really in it. In this case, honesty might be your best approach.

Other options: 1. Change the time of your walk to a better time for you. If she cancels, you can just incorporate it into your normal exercise routine. 2. Add another, more reliable friend to the walk group so that you know you'll always have a walk buddy.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Nightowlz wrote:
A friend of mine asked me if I wanted to walk with her at the Mall a couple of times per week. I told her sure because I walk 4 miles or more 5-6 days per week.
Problem is she always has an excuse why she cannot make it.
I changed my plans to do this with her. I get up earlier than I normally would because she needs to get it done earlier. I thought ok no problem. The problem I have is getting up than receiving a text my alarm did not go off, my AC not's working, I just plain forgot etc. You get the picture.
When we do walk she talks about doing this more than twice per week. I told her I did not know about that I also have other things I need to do plus I don't want to get up early every day not to mention she can never make it. LOL!!!
What would you do? It's really getting old.
We do this on Tues & Thurs. I guess Thurs I can make up an excuse why I cannot go. LOL!!!

@Nightowlz Uh, I don't see a problem here. If you don't like it and don't want to do it, don't do it! OK? You shouldn't be forced to do things like that that you don't enjoy. It's your life and time, spend it wisely! Being grumpy is not worth the effort! Go forth and enjoy!

shaggygirl · ‎11-24-2011

@Peaches McPhee wrote:
I think I'd be honest with her. Friend, I don't think this is working for us. Our scheduled walk together has been cancelled so much lately, and this impacts my own walking schedule. Let's reconsider our schedule -- maybe fewer days.

What you said........that is soooo perfect. It's truthful and to the point yet could not possibly offend or hurt said that way.

Nightowlz · ‎03-11-2010

@CrazyDaisy wrote:
Getting started is always the hardest part. Do not know how long you have been walking with her, just give it some time. Some need to be held accountable.

@CrazyDaisy

We have only been doing this for a couple of months now. Generally only make it once per week if that. LOL!!!

Nightowlz · ‎03-11-2010

@Peaches McPhee wrote:
I think I'd be honest with her. Friend, I don't think this is working for us. Our scheduled walk together has been cancelled so much lately, and this impacts my own walking schedule. Let's reconsider our schedule -- maybe fewer days.

@Peaches McPhee

Well I know she does not like to get up early since she goes to bed late only because she has problems sleeping. So do I. I sure could have slept in this morning. I don't know how we could do fewer days when we were going to do it Tues & Thurs. We generally only make it once per week if that. I'll keep it up for a while & see what happens.

Laura14 · ‎06-09-2014

@Nightowlz Is it possible to confirm the night before? Maybe that will help get you more sleep. And I would let her know that if she isn't firm or doesn't respond, you're taking that as a not this time.