Among Friends

[Nightowlz]

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@Drythe wrote:

@Nightowlz

You sound like a very kind friend.  But, you do want your walks w/o hassle.

I believe I would tell her that I’d start walking on my street at xx:xx time, and would be happy to have her join in if she can make it.

Happy Trails!

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@Drythe

That sounds good. That should work. We have a nice concrete street that's not all crumbled up so it makes walking easier.

[Nightowlz]

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@deeva wrote:

When my friends say the would like to walk with me, I tell them that I don’t have an exact time when I leave the house each day.

And that I enjoy walking alone. 

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@deeva

ITA!!! I can get it done faster if I walk alone & listen to music. I have already told her that. She kept on about it so I agreed to twice per week. Just not happy she asked & can't show up. I don't get it? Guess she does not want to exercise alone or at all. I'm just gong to keep doing what I'm doing. If she texts me about walking I will see what I'm doing. I'm not going to bother texting again about walking.

I would never ask someone to go walking with me & turn around & make excuses why I cannot do it today.

[QueenDanceALot]

A guy I used to work out with sometimes in the gym wanted me to also run with him.

I did for awhile, but I was glad when I bowed out.  He would blah blah blah through the run and I much prefered to be quiet and alone with my thoughts when I ran and same thing when I walk.

[elated]

Just tell her she can join you on your walks and if not, you can still do it on your schedule. I see no reason for fretting over a situation that has gone wrong. Take care of yourself and quit antagonizing over her. Some people have good intentions but are not motivated to make the change.

[Montana]

If you are only going to the mall for your friend, and she rarely makes it, I think you should stop. Just keep to your own schedule.  That way you won’t feel resentful about her lack of motivation - or whatever. 

You said your friend has always been like this, so I doubt if she will change now.