Re: Update ECBG

Pink123 · ‎07-10-2019

@Lakelife62 wrote:
Can we just trust women to do what is right for THEIR own bodies? This poster is now having judgement thrown at her husband and son and dil, plus nasty speculation aimed at her. Yes, we are worried by the symptoms she described, but she is the one having to live with them.
If they've decided as a family that @ECBG is better at home and will wait to be seen by a therapist next week, that is HER decision. Case closed. Leave it alone. Good grief.

I'm sorry to disagree with you on this one. If and this is a highly suspect "If" a family member has become mentally incapacitated there should be an intervention ASAP. She can't take care of herself anymore and needs others to start making decisions.

Are you reading her nonsensical threads? It's very sad.

Lakelife62 · ‎05-09-2023

@tansy wrote:

@Lakelife62 wrote:
Can we just trust women to do what is right for THEIR own bodies? This poster is now having judgement thrown at her husband and son and dil, plus nasty speculation aimed at her. Yes, we are worried by the symptoms she described, but she is the one having to live with them.
If they've decided as a family that @ECBG is better at home and will wait to be seen by a therapist next week, that is HER decision. Case closed. Leave it alone. Good grief.
In my own family situation, my husband loves me and wants the best for me, but he is no longer reliable to make decisions like this, @Lakelife62, for us. I have recently made big changes to our living situation to take this into account.

Understood @tansy and much admiration to you for the courage it takes to make these changes. However, the changes were your decision. @ECBG, her husband and her family are making their decisions. She's been back several times to try to explain and her decision (which does not effect anyone but her and her loved ones) derserves to be respected.

Best wishes and good luck with your new living situation. It can't be easy or comfortable to face the changes that come with deteriorating health, whether ourselves or family members.

elated · ‎06-09-2010

@Citrine1 wrote:
I think, perhaps, the situation may not be quite as bad as we posters seem to think. On the surface, it certainly sounds serious, but let's remember that @ECBG has a habit of not explaining things well.

I don't think it's a "dementia" thing. She's had difficulty expressing herself for years. Many of her posts don't make sense. I'm not saying this to be mean - she just has a peculiar writing style.

I seriously doubt that her husband and other family members are unwilling to give her the help she needs. I agree with @Lakelife62 that it's unfair to denigrate her husband and son.

She has been told, on three separate threads, to seek immediate medical attention and refuses to do so. She is also posting on other threads about other topics so it's obvious she is able to focus on things other than her situation.

For those of us who have read her many posts in the fashion forum, I think we all know that she tends to exaggerate. Again, not being mean. Just stating facts.

FYI

Dementia in its various forms can impair judgment, affect mood and personality, prompt odd behavior and distort how a person perceives what he or she sees.

Lakelife62 · ‎05-09-2023

@Pink123 wrote:
@Lakelife62 wrote:
Can we just trust women to do what is right for THEIR own bodies? This poster is now having judgement thrown at her husband and son and dil, plus nasty speculation aimed at her. Yes, we are worried by the symptoms she described, but she is the one having to live with them.
If they've decided as a family that @ECBG is better at home and will wait to be seen by a therapist next week, that is HER decision. Case closed. Leave it alone. Good grief.
I'm sorry to disagree with you on this one. If and this is a highly suspect "If" a family member has become mentally incapacitated there should be an intervention ASAP. She can't take care of herself anymore and needs others to start making decisions.

Are you reading her nonsensical threads? It's very sad.

I won't judge who is mentally incapacitated and who is not. I don't know anybody here in real life. Therefore, it's not for me to declare someone is unable to care for themselves. @ECBG has a husband and a loving family. They have decided the best course of action and that decision needs to be respected by the STRANGERS on this forum. We are not subject to the consequences if they are wrong.

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

@Lakelife62 wrote:
@Pink123 wrote:
@Lakelife62 wrote:
Can we just trust women to do what is right for THEIR own bodies? This poster is now having judgement thrown at her husband and son and dil, plus nasty speculation aimed at her. Yes, we are worried by the symptoms she described, but she is the one having to live with them.
If they've decided as a family that @ECBG is better at home and will wait to be seen by a therapist next week, that is HER decision. Case closed. Leave it alone. Good grief.
I'm sorry to disagree with you on this one. If and this is a highly suspect "If" a family member has become mentally incapacitated there should be an intervention ASAP. She can't take care of herself anymore and needs others to start making decisions.

Are you reading her nonsensical threads? It's very sad.
I won't judge who is mentally incapacitated and who is not. I don't know anybody here in real life. Therefore, it's not for me to declare someone is unable to care for themselves. @ECBG has a husband and a loving family. They have decided the best course of action and that decision needs to be respected by the STRANGERS on this forum. We are not subject to the consequences if they are wrong.

So then why 4 threads? Why come here and get everyone upset and the many CARING PEOPLE on this board have offered suggestions to end up being scolded by both her and YOU???? Save the lecture. And nobody knows how loving the family is. She may be left on her own and due to her incoherent posts could use a friend.

Are you aware 2 health care providers told her to go to the ER??? If you think you know better for her, then maybe you are the one not subject to the consequences.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

All posters here have is what others tell us. We take that information and form an opinion from it. Right or wrong, that's what we have to go on.

You post, you play. You may not always like what conclusions people come to from your posts but that's the way it works. Movie stars go out and get talked about, that's the way it works here.

When you put yourself so far forward you can't complain about what conclusions people jump to.

Pink123 · ‎07-10-2019

@Sooner what you say in large is correct but some of us go back quite a few years and do know much more than others. There are a few who actually know her in person and the family too but rightfully so refuses to interact in these threads. I don't blame her either for washing her hands of it a long time ago bless her heart! I did too as a matter of fact.

I find it best to let her be and ignore. One can only cry wolf so many times. I know different and for that cut me a break on this one ok? Don't shoot the messenger as they say right?? It's always been that way sadly.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Pink123 I go back here way into the 1990's and the board is far different, and so is our world in this country.

But the point I am making is that when you put things here, you don't control what is said about them. You don't take things back. It is what it is for good or bad. And all is perception, not necessarily truth.

Pink123 · ‎07-10-2019

Yes you are correct @Sooner. Time spent here is not what I'm talking about at all. I knew you would go in that direction.

I'm talking about actually knowing, spending the day together, going to dinner, etcetera. A friend if you will. Do we know one another? Nope. I know you from this chat room and that's it. Your an online friend to me.

The end.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Pink123 wrote:
Yes you are correct @Sooner. Time spent here is not what I'm talking about at all. I knew you would go in that direction.

I'm talking about actually knowing, spending the day together, going to dinner, etcetera. A friend if you will. Do we know one another? Nope. I know you from this chat room and that's it. Your an online friend to me.

The end.

@Pink123 You KNEW I would go in that direction? I have no idea what you are getting at here. Or why.