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@Nonametoday wrote:

"I know you said 'no gifts' but just in case you want to tip the wait staff, thought I'd help" and then make it a nice monetary gift.


@Nonametoday  Like she wouldn’t tip the wait staff without your “gift”?  😧

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@esmerelda wrote:

@Nonametoday
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"I know you said 'no gifts' but just in case you want to tip the wait staff, thought I'd help" and then make it a nice monetary gift.


@Nonametoday  Like she wouldn’t tip the wait staff without your “gift”?  😧

 

@esmerelda I see you are keeping it rude for everyone.  Hope @Nonametoday  laughs it off.


 

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When I receive an invite that says "No Gifts", I do not bring a gift nor do I feel guilty or awkward that some people do bring gifts anyway.  

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@BunSnoop 

I hear ya!....always a debate! 

My siblings and I gave my mom an 85th birthday party 5 years ago. The invitation said no gifts.(Your presence is your gift) Most everyone gave her a gift card or a check. To me it means a gift is not necessary but is always appreciated!Smiley Happy

As far as, what to write in the card, I don't think it's necessary to address the no gift request. Giving a gift to someone you care about is self explanatory! IMO🤗

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@Tinkerbell3 wrote:

Giving someone, especially an adult, $ or a check is in really bad taste (unless it's for a Nonprofit donation in someone's name!). I would send flowers to say "Thank You" for a wonderful evening! You should absolutely be sending a note anyway. 


Whose etiquette rule is this?

While I agree, I wouldn't want or need this for myself, especially at this age and stage of my life but I know many adults who need and would greatly appreciate getting money. I've  been to many adult parties where they received money and were very grateful to get it. Like everything, I guess it's  relative to where you come from and how you live. Not everyone can afford to be offended by receiving a helping hand.

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@Bridgegal wrote:

Interesting.. I just read all responses and only 2 people actually answered OP's question.  Read people!!


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@esmerelda wrote:

@Nonametoday wrote:

"I know you said 'no gifts' but just in case you want to tip the wait staff, thought I'd help" and then make it a nice monetary gift.


@Nonametoday  Like she wouldn’t tip the wait staff without your “gift”?  😧


@esmerelda    Anyone with social skills can read the underlying meaning.  Perhaps, you did not read that.

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

@Trinity11 wrote:

The only place I have ever read where people bring no gifts or a hostess gift to a party is on these forums. I have never been to any party where they say "no gifts" that there isn't a sea of presents including cards on a table at the door.

 

@BunSnoop...I wouldn't say anything about no gifts. I would wrap the gift or enclose a gift card with a card and sign it.


@Trinity11  Towards the end when we had a party for our Mom or Dad we always specified no gifts. This was in NJ.


Same here - also in NJ at the time. We had a large anniversary surprise party for my parents and specified (nicely) no gifts please.  They didn't need anything, didn't want anything, had been trying to downsize (like I read a lot here).  And we didn't want any guests to feel obligated to do anything other than come and have a good time.