Told Not To Bring a Gift, But I Am.....

BunSnoop · ‎05-22-2010

I'm going to a birthday party tonight with my husband for a friend of ours - it's her 85th birthday.

She is paying for everyone's meals - there will be about 20-25 guests. It's at a very upscale restaurant. She wrote on the invite "no gifts". She does these birthday parties every 10 years, she writes "no gifts" but I heard that everyone either gives gift cards, checks, etc.

She does not have a lot of extra income and I know the money gifts are appreciated.

I want to put a check in the card. In the card I guess I want to write, I know you said no gifts, but..........

That's where I'm lost. Do I just say, but.....we just wanted to? Or how would you phase it?

aroc3435 · ‎09-30-2010

@BunSnoop . . . but we just wanted to honor you. Maybe that would work?

threecees · ‎09-22-2017

If she does not want any gifts for herself, would she accept

money and donate it to a charity?

Have you gone to one of her parties in the past? Do you

know others that will attend? Maybe you can speak to them.

Shelbelle · ‎03-09-2010

When I get a no gifts invite, I always give a gift card to a store or restaurant, or sometimes give a donation in the persons name to a fave charity of theirs.

Susan-QVC · ‎06-14-2015

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Imaoldhippie · ‎06-10-2015

How does she pay for that many meals at an upscale restaurant if she does not have a lot of extra income? She must save up for 10 years. How do you know the money gifts are appreciated? Has she told you?

Do what feels right for you. I believe if it were me I would get a card and put in cash what you think 2 meals would cost at the restaurant and not mention a word about it.

God bless her and I hope she has a Happy Birthday and a great "party."

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suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

To me, "no gifts" means exactly what it says. If it had said "In lieu of a gift, a donation to your favorite charity [or lists an option]," then that's what I would have done.

~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

willdob3 · ‎11-01-2010

@BunSnoop

No gifts means no gifts. No buts.

NickNack · ‎03-10-2010

My sister and I gave my father a birthday party at a nice restaurant for his 80th birthday. We put "no gifts" on the invitation that was sent to at least 50 people. Almost everyone came, and no one brought a gift. He got a lot of birthday cards. I think "no gifts" means please don't bring a gift.

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