Re: Thoughts about moving to a new state

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

IF I had family that lived in this area moving away would not seem like such a great idea but I do not.....my DH's family is all gone, my family, except for a brother is pretty fractured, so even if they lived close by I would not hesitate to move away from them....drama, drama, drama.

Not everyone has a great extended family...I wish I did but I do not.

What I will do is encourage travelling after we sell our business, we will have the time at that point. Our business is a 2 person business...so if we take time off, we have to close up. Taking a lot of time over the years has not been easy, and travelling has never been a priority.

Again I thank everyone for their advice and sharing their experiences.

homedecor1 · ‎03-09-2010

@KathyPet

you are so right about aging and I see it everyday! There is always a paramedic, (ambulance) here. Just recently a neighbor & friend of mine died (no issues she was 79 got a cold turned into pneumonia) - her husband is "lost".

He will call us every day to take him take him to store, doctor or whatever. (This is not the 1st person to do this). Sometimes I feel bad because I have other plans and have to say no. Where are the kids or others? Oh they live in CT and are busy!

Many empty places here for this reason &- they move to assisted living, died or went closer to children.

@Vivian

this describes only on a smaller scale of homes our community.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

@homedecor1 wrote:
@Mom2Dogs

I'm living his dream - I retired early for his dream after years of convincing me FL was paradise!

Dont get me wrong - beautiful weather but that's it!

I complain everyday to him about this mistake! He thinks it's great: affordable living, no state income tax, golf, gated community, etc.

me on the other hand: miss my family & friends, don't care if it's affordable, do not want to celebrate birthdays & holidays with strangers .....oh the list goes on and on....

If you're both wanting it, both decide where to move, both pick area, etc. go for it IF NOT take it from me....stay put!!!

@missy1 wrote:
Your first sentence tells all. I would leave. Why be miserable?

KathyPet · ‎03-09-2010

@homedecor1 wrote:
@KathyPet

you are so right about aging and I see it everyday! There is always a paramedic, (ambulance) here. Just recently a neighbor & friend of mine died (no issues she was 79 got a cold turned into pneumonia) - her husband is "lost".

He will call us every day to take him take him to store, doctor or whatever. (This is not the 1st person to do this). Sometimes I feel bad because I have other plans and have to say no. Where are the kids or others? Oh they live in CT and are busy!

Many empty places here for this reason &- they move to assisted living, died or went closer to children.

@Vivian

this describes only on a smaller scale of homes our community.

THose of you who want to retire to a new area where you know no one and have no family nearby really need to think that idea through. YOu are going to age. YOur health is going to decline. You or your spouse will die eventually. IF it is your spouse then what are You going to do then if you fall and break a hip, have a heart attack or a stroke, get cancer and have to undergo treatment. Who is going to step up to the plate then? WHo is going to have the POA to deal with your health directives and your personal finances if your spouse is deceased? SOme family member who lives hundreds of miles away???
Some people simply are not seeing the downside of deciding to move to a totally new area where they know no one. THe types of problems mentioned above can occur quickly and without warning. WHat are you going to do then?

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

@KathyPet wrote:
@homedecor1 wrote:
@KathyPet

you are so right about aging and I see it everyday! There is always a paramedic, (ambulance) here. Just recently a neighbor & friend of mine died (no issues she was 79 got a cold turned into pneumonia) - her husband is "lost".

He will call us every day to take him take him to store, doctor or whatever. (This is not the 1st person to do this). Sometimes I feel bad because I have other plans and have to say no. Where are the kids or others? Oh they live in CT and are busy!

Many empty places here for this reason &- they move to assisted living, died or went closer to children.

@Vivian

this describes only on a smaller scale of homes our community.

THose of you who want to retire to a new area where you know no one and have no family nearby really need to think that idea through. YOu are going to age. YOur health is going to decline. You or your spouse will die eventually. IF it is your spouse then what are You going to do then if you fall and break a hip, have a heart attack or a stroke, get cancer and have to undergo treatment. Who is going to step up to the plate then? WHo is going to have the POA to deal with your health directives and your personal finances if your spouse is deceased? SOme family member who lives hundreds of miles away???
Some people simply are not seeing the downside of deciding to move to a totally new area where they know no one. THe types of problems mentioned above can occur quickly and without warning. WHat are you going to do then?

Many family members do help each other out. On reading just these forums some people are alone on the holiday's etc. One has to make other arrangements if have no family or friends.