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[qualitygal]

The 60's (age wise) weren't good for me either. Mine was very sad with the loss of both parents.  That's why I say, do what you can while you can.  You and your husband should travel if that sounds good to either of  you.

[Newgate]

I am thankful that me and and my husband, the love of my life, have both lived into our 70's and are still in good health.  We have a wonderful family of children, grandchildren and now great grandchildren!

We live a peaceful life in a nice cozy home and are very content.  No family is without problems and we have had ours but have come through it all. 

I am, of course, a much more wise person in my old age and I thank God every day for my blessing!

[haddon9]

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@AbbyKwrote:

So I just turned 62, and I do  not like this phase of my life.  I was my most happiest in my 30s and 40s bringing up my son and daughter, having my mother alive who was available with great advice.  I had loads of girlfriends who I saw weekly with their kids.  I worked part time, and we traveled as a family on fun trips.  With the kids now in their 30s and gone, things are so different .  Neither one of my kids are even dating, never mind grandchildren.  Former friends are involved with their grandchildren as it should be. I realize friendships ebb and flow, but I’m down to one best friend, and loads of acquaintances at work.   And I suppose I should be happy with that.   Millennials at work (Library) think I should retire already. My husband  and I love to travel, and are healthy enough.

So I should be reasonably content, but I’m not.....

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@AbbyK  I understand how you feel.  I'm 63 with both a son & daughter.  Both are in their 30s (son just turned 30 last week).  Neither are married and I have no grandchildren either. However my daughter is in a serious relationship so we'll see where that's ging...only time will tell.  Friends and activities are not as plentiful as it was when I was in my 30s & 40s.

Yet I remember getting tired so much running around with the kids and all of the various clubs and activities they were involved with.  It wasn't always a piece of cake then either.  

I still have a few friends that I make an effort to get together with on a regular basis and since I work from home I can set my hours to what works for me.

My one regret is that DH got very sick 6 years ago and now has serious health issues that I never dreamed would happen when we were younger.  We still try to travel & will be going with extended family to Ireland in September.  That sort of travel though is much more difficult if not impossible without family now because of his health.  

It's certainly not what I expected for our 60s.  I had hoped that we would be able to be more carefree....getting away for a nice B&B weekend, trying out new restaurants, exploring new things.  It's not to be since the focus is on his health.  I can at least get out with friends to try out new restaurants, etc.

To top it off this has been a mentally rough winter for me.  I have never been as depressed as I am now ....I really hate winter with a passion and hope to feel better when the seasons finally change.

[Solar Is My Name]

@ElomThank you so much FOR sharing! Putting actions to my values makes me feel good about myself. Hope you are having a good day!

--Solar1

[Solar Is My Name]

@haddon9Goodness, you have been having a lot to adjust to. Glad your family is some help to you and your DH. I hope the spring, spirtual reading and the love of others -- and well-wishes wished for you from people you don't even know (like me) -- add to your feeling of more lightness.

Solar1

[RedTop]

I feel good about myself because I like who I am.   I don’t want to be like anyone else, I don’t compare myself to anyone else, and I am fully content to just be.   My focus every day is to just breathe and let life happen.   I don’t overthink, and I don’t sweat the small stuff.   

[Kalli]

The last few years have been a challenge for me due to Mom having dementia and Dad trying to keep her home with him. Now they’re both in a nursing home because her needs became too much and he was too lonely at home without her.  I take him out often and he appreciates it.

Other than that, I’m pleased to be able to be retired now and feel fortunate to have a pension.

I feel good about my commitment to exercise regularly.

Proud of the fact that I now am much better at standing up for myself and my beliefs.  Interesting that sometimes being outspoken causes you to lose a friend or two along the way.  

I try hard to focus on positive stuff so I’m not dragged down by sad stuff.  

My loved ones and my pets are most important to me. 

I find I think about my own mortality more now since entering my 60s. Guess that’s normal. 

[mcducky]

Great question!  What makes me feel good about myself?  

That I served in the military for 21 years.  (active duty and reserve)

That I worked another fulltime job for 23 years.

That I mentored others.

That I am not a burden to anyone.

I'm a good citizen.

I don't drink alcohol, do drugs or abuse medication.

Importance in my life?

Family & Friends (including furry ones)

Being a good citizen.

Philosophies:

Be a good citizen.   

Be kind.

Don't take anything for granted.

[Solar Is My Name]

At this age I think about what legacy I want to leave. For example, if I value giving to others who don't have it easy then I should give both time and money to help them. Not just think my values or mouth my values but DO ACTIONS THAT EXPRESS MY VALUES.

[Kalli]

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@Solar Is My Namewrote:

At this age I think about what legacy I want to leave. For example, if I value giving to others who don't have it easy then I should give both time and money to help them. Not just think my values or mouth my values but DO ACTIONS THAT EXPRESS MY VALUES.

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@Solar Is My Name, I’ve been thinking along the same lines. Since retiring, I have a little more time now. I’ve been thinking of volunteering but due to helping my elderly dad transporting him to dr appointments, veteran and church events, I can’t be completely flexible. But it’s important to actually get involved. Actions are very important.