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Things women say to each other they don't realize are insults

Recently a lady I know (she's not a close friend ) said to me  "Are you tired? You look really tired."  I mean, you might as well say, "you look like ******".  Women don't realize how rude this is.

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Re: Things women say to each other they don't realize are insults

@KKJ  I hate when people say that.  It makes you feel ugly and worn out.  

 

Better to say nothing or offer to buy them a coffee or lunch to bring a smile to their face. 



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Yeah, and I WASN'T tired. And when she asked me that I said no I wasn't tired, and she said  "Well, you look tired."  Geez!

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someone i hadn't seen in awhile said that to me yesterday......i deal with chronic pain,,,didn't need to hear that....

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Re: Things women say to each other they don't realize are insults

The people who ask care about me...I don't think it's rude.

 

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I am guilty of having told someone I knew they "looked tired" when I thought they did. I never thought it was offensive, as it was not intended that way, but after reading the posts here, I doubt that I ever will again. I really had no idea it could be interpreted that way, and feel bad when I think it might have been. I will be much more sensitive in the future and as my mother used to say, "keep your words to yourself".😁

 

 

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Yes that's right up there with telling you to smile. Grrr. 😡

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I don't think it's rude.  In fact, a comment like that may just "save a life." 

 

 

Just saying............

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Re: Things women say to each other they don't realize are insults

reading this I'd say

 

"oh wow, I was just thinking that about you"

 

but in the real world I probably wouldn't think of it until I walked away

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@KKJ wrote:

Recently a lady I know (she's not a close friend ) said to me  "Are you tired? You look really tired."  I mean, you might as well say, "you look like ******".  Women don't realize how rude this is.


@KKJ  When people tell me that, I'm pretty sure they mean it, and I'm pretty sure they're right! I have no illusions. I'm tired a lot.